so awkward...

[Lindsey]

I just need to get something out... I'm at school in a very male-dominated field of study, and there's only 3 girls in my class including me. One is older and pregnant and she spends all her time at home with her boyfriend. The other I spend most of my time with. We met on our first day of classes 2 years ago and we spend just as much time in school as out. Last week she decided to tell me that she has secretly been sleeping with my roommate, and she thought she should tell me because I would figure it out anyway. My roommate is a guy in our class, and I am sworn to secrecy. Now she comes over and feels like she has to visit with me even though she just wants to run to my roommate's bedroom. She sleeps here every night. She gets up all hours to get a glass of water or whatever, waking my dog up, and making her bark because she's not used to people walking around the house at night, and therefore waking me up.
Obviously, her and my roommate don't get much sleep, and they complain all day about how tired they are, and miss class, and let me pick up their homework. Today she was telling me "it must be pretty weird to be in your position hey?" and I was pretty annoyed and I said "yeah, it's really weird." and she just laughed. I don't think I would have a problem with it if it wasn't happening in MY house EVERY night.
Tonight I thought things were different and she wanted to go to a movie with me. When the movie was over, at 11:30, when I should be in bed for a good night's sleep, she said "hey i'll see you in a couple minutes" and she giggled. Not 5 minutes after I walked in the door, she knocked, and I had to let her in so she could go do her thing with my roommate. Now I can HEAR them. I am so mad!

[Mandy]

Hmm... that is awkward!! I hope things change SOON for you.
If you hear them, which must be aweful, just go bang on the door and tell them, you want to SLEEP!

Good luck, just keep smiling even though it's difficult

[Carolyn]

ewwwww.......! You can HEAR them? I would definitely talk to her and tell her you hear them doing the nasty and how uncomfortable it makes you. She should be embarrassed after you tell her but she sounds like a piece of work! Maybe you can talk to him about it since he's your roomate?

[magnolia]

Start charging her rent - since it seems she's there every single night - maybe then she'd either be more respectful of you and your friendship or she'd stop hanging around there! I would definitely talk to her and your room mate. She's probably already told him you know about them but she wants you to maintain "secrecy" - bull!! Talk to them both, for your peace of mind.

[Lindsey]

yeah my roommate knows that I know about it, but he doesn't want me to let anyone else in the class know. We also aren't that close really, i don't feel comfortable around him because I know about his lifestyle and drug use and stuff. Basically, he does his thing and I do mine. They won't do it at her house because she also lives with a guy from our class, who isn't allowed to know about it. And my roommate is so antisocial, if someone called here for him and he's not here, there would be questions. My friend just always says she's visiting me. I guess I'll let her know today that my house isn't soundproof.
I don't understand how they can do this every night! School right now is my life, and I work my ass off all week so that I can have my weekends with my boyfriend. If I was dating a guy who needed to keep me awake every night, it would be over in an instant! But I guess we all have different priorities...

[Necee419]

Wow that sounds pretty uncomfortable and it doesn't sound like if you talk to them, they will take you seriously. I guess all you can do at this point is hope that they break up soon so you can finally get some sleep!! Sorry I can't be of more help but try to hang in there and in the meantime, get some ear plugs and try to make the best of it.

[Kimberley]

That's sick! Some people are so rude and TRASHY!

[Amber_lv]

I would just tell her how you feel if she has a problem with it then she should find somewhere else to do it. I'm sorry you have to go through this.

[Sherry Lynn]

Any chance that you can find another place to live or ask your roomie to leave?

[Lindsey]

I think she felt bad about it finally, she told me she would try to get him to go to her house tonight so i could get some sleep, but if he wouldn't then she'd be here again. I wish I could tell her to get her hormones in check! Moving out isn't an option for me or my roommate unfortunately. I first moved in with the help of my parents and their truck with all my furniture, and my roommate had to get some of our friends with trucks to help him move all his stuff. It's just a hassle when we're both only staying in this city until the middle of december when we both graduate. I guess I'll have to grumpily live with it until then.
Today after school my roommate fell fast asleep in his room downstairs because he didn't sleep last night, and obviously neither did I. It's a little childish of me but I let him know how it feels in a less disturbing way, I turned on the tv loudly and then kept heavily walking up and down the squeaky stairs to do laundry. It didn't take him long to wake up

[Lindsey]

apparently the whole plan of going to her house tonight didn't work out, and I had an awesome sleep for an hour until my little watchdog decided to let me know someone was entering the house by barking loud enough to wake up the neighborhood, and sure enough, there's her shoes at the front door and there's the sex noises coming from downstairs.

[Marilyn]

So sad you have to deal with this. Our society has gotten so bad!!

My thought was....could you trade roommates? She likes yours and hers might be a quieter kind of guy who wants to rest and study like you do.

Just a thought....

[Lindsey]

We couldn't trade roommates, because then their little secret would be out. Plus she lives in a house with 3 other people and pays wayyyy less rent than I do. And her house is pretty much known as the party house. I ended up taking enough tylenol last night to knock me out so I got three hours of sleep.