Living Together Before Marriage?

[Tink]

Greg and I lived together 3 years before marrying. I'd had a really BAD 1st marriage, and there was no way I was subjecting myself or my daughter to that again. It took greg 3 yrs to convince me to marry him; and I seriously don't think I'd have ever built that trust if we hadn't lived together first.

Once I said yes, we were married within weeks. We've been married 21 yrs. I wouldn't say it's for everyone, but it obviously worked for us.

[Chandra Amaya]

Originally Posted by Tink

Greg and I lived together 3 years before marrying. I'd had a really BAD 1st marriage, and there was no way I was subjecting myself or my daughter to that again. It took greg 3 yrs to convince me to marry him; and I seriously don't think I'd have ever built that trust if we hadn't lived together first.

Once I said yes, we were married within weeks. We've been married 21 yrs. I wouldn't say it's for everyone, but it obviously worked for us.

exactly. I did the exact same thing. Wasn't sure I ever wanted to get married again.felt that all men are the same. only been married 3 years but congrats on finding a long happy marriage after a bad one Tink

Hubby and I lived together for 6 months before we got engaged, were engaged for a year and have been happily married for almost 4 years. It worked out great for us!

[Gina]

Originally Posted by Tink

Greg and I lived together 3 years before marrying. I'd had a really BAD 1st marriage, and there was no way I was subjecting myself or my daughter to that again. It took greg 3 yrs to convince me to marry him; and I seriously don't think I'd have ever built that trust if we hadn't lived together first.

Once I said yes, we were married within weeks. We've been married 21 yrs. I wouldn't say it's for everyone, but it obviously worked for us.

Tink thats great, statically they say that couples who live together then marry usually break up. I find this to be true with couples that I know that have. Sad you would think that living together that they would be happy. Sometimes that piece of paper means something. I was raised pretty strict my parents would have killed me lol but I believe to each his own.

I am currently living with my BF and its been great!! Reallly taught me how to share space and responsiblity.. I think all people should live together before getting married (JMO)

[goofywife]

I was married before. When I met Adam, I lived in Texas he lived in OK. When we decied that we were done with the long distance thing, my family said live together don't get married. In fact they were pretty admit about it.

It really was't for me. If I wsas going to uproot my daughter and I from Texas and our family, it was only going to happen if we got married. So rather than make waves with my family, I said ok, we will just live together. Mean while we planned a small ceremony. Just us, the witness, and the preacher. We got married the weekend I moved up.

About a year later, my mom and sisters came to visit for my GF wedding. We were at the bridal shower and someone said, Who is the one who married Adam. Needless to say Mom and Sisters turned around looked at me and said "do you have something to tell us".

We have been married for 13 years now.

I lived with my now Husband for 11 years before we were married. I wouldnt do it again and I would be very disapointed if My Daughter lived with a guy

[judy]

I lived with my ex for about 5 years before we got married. I also had a bad first marriage and really didn't want to ever get married again. It took Joel a long time to talk me into marriage. When we got married, it was a very different commitment, which I took very seriously. It didn't work out, but we tried very hard to stay together. I don't think we would have done that if we weren't married.

My boyfriend and I own a townhouse together. Some people think that owning is so final, but I know if things don't work out (knock on wood) we can always sell the house, and my mom's assured me I'm always welcome back home. I love living with him, and were learning so much about each other each day. We've only been together for 2years, which yeah that is kinda quick, but sometimes things happen faster for some people, sometimes slower. I don't plan on getting married until afte, r school, and when I'm in my later 20's, and I don't want to stay at my parents until I'm that old. And there's no way I want to live by myself. Our living together works out perfect, plus it's not like we see eachother all the time, like you would think we do since we live together. We both have very busy schedules, so our only time together is usually a couple hours before we go to sleep at night. I think it just depends on the person.

i live with my partner but we are now engaged, i would never marry someone without living with them first as i think only when you live with someone do you really truely know them and when i marry i want it to be for life.
but as its been said each to there own.

Originally Posted by Rae

My boyfriend and I own a townhouse together. Some people think that owning is so final, but I know if things don't work out (knock on wood) we can always sell the house, and my mom's assured me I'm always welcome back home. I love living with him, and were learning so much about each other each day. We've only been together for 2years, which yeah that is kinda quick, but sometimes things happen faster for some people, sometimes slower. I don't plan on getting married until afte, r school, and when I'm in my later 20's, and I don't want to stay at my parents until I'm that old. And there's no way I want to live by myself. Our living together works out perfect, plus it's not like we see eachother all the time, like you would think we do since we live together. We both have very busy schedules, so our only time together is usually a couple hours before we go to sleep at night. I think it just depends on the person.

My BF Jody and I actually moved in together after only dating 8 months... Pretty quick but its been amazing!! He and I get along so well and I wouldn't change a thing.. Since we discuss marriage and I'll probably be engaged by next year (i am guessing) i think it was for the best.. He lived with an ex GF and it didn't work out and i think he was a bit nervous but we get along so well.. Its been the best descision i've ever made!!

[Taurus Babe]

I think that it's fine. If that's what you want to do. I think you learn a LOT about someone living with them even if you think you know them before you move in with them. I've learned SO much living with my bf. We only were with each other 9 times before I moved in with him!! It was love at first sight It totally depends on the people involved...I think that living with together before marriage is one less 'shock' you have to deal with after you tie the knot!

[blowry]

According to todays standards, I was married young, I was 21 when I married my first husband (that was 29 yrs ago). I had my first daughter 15 months after we got married. Then 5 yrs later we had another daughter. My marriage to Bob was not a good one. He was an abusive alcoholic. A decision was made for me to not work and stay home and raise our 2 beautiful daughters. I'm not really sure if I loved him when I married him or was in love with the idea of being married and having a family. After manys unhappy years I decided to end the marriage...which, wasn't an easy thing to do, even though I was the one that wanted it. I had been married for 19 yrs when I decided it was time to leave. It was the hardest thing in my life I have ever done. I feel that if we had lived together (my parents would have disowned me if I had done this) we probably wouldn't have gotten married. I dealt with my unhappy marriage because of the children...which wasnt' fair for them either.
I have been married to a wonderful man now for 8 yrs. We dated for a yr, lived together for a year then got married. We have our ups and downs like everyone else does but, we love and cherish each other.
I feel you don't really know a person unless you live with them.

[highlans]

I think when I married 33 years ago liveing together was not really done,I belive if you truely love your partner then it has to be marriage.

So another question to this is what about sex before marriage?

[DianeW]

My Husband And I Have Been Happily Married For 22 Years, We Have A Daughter Who Is 21, And We Lived Together For About 1 Year Before We Were Married.

We Had Bought Our First House And Only Decided To Get Married When We Decided To Have Our Daughter. Though We Knew We Would Get Married Some Day....

I Think It Is A Very Personal Decision, But I Am Glad We Did It This Way, And Would Be Happy If My Daughter Were To Live With Someone Before Making Thatfinal Commitment Of Marriage - Which To Me Is For Ever...