Depressed getting old at 64

[janc]

Originally Posted by Tink

Oh Donna, I'm so sorry you're letting this get you down!
You're right that as we age, our time we have left does just grow shorter and shorter with each passing day. Yet we have to decide if we're going to waste what time we have left by worrying about it, or make a special effort to enjoy what we do have so we make the best of it.

We're all born with a death sentence hanging over us. It's a fact of being mortal. I've had a heart attack, my dad and 3 of my grandparents died of heart attacks, so I'd say it's a fairly safe bet that's how I'll go out. I could maybe add a little time to my life if I quit eating the high fat, high calorie foods and quit smoking. I might extend my life by following all of my drs orders, but I am determined that I want to enjoy myself and if I can't, then what's the point?

I think there are a lot worse things than dying. Not living while you still can ranks right up there.

I throw myself into my hobbies. I'm learning to say what I mean whether it's the popular thing or not, and I'm valuing the friendships and time with my loved ones more than I ever have BECAUSE I know how fleeting it all can be. God didn't give us life just so we could spend it worrying. I hope you're able to pull yourself out of this funk and live like you appreciate this gift. We owe it to God to use and be grateful for all that he's given us, and life's a whole lot more fun when we do.

HUGS

You know, Tink, I feel the same way. I did all the right things- exercised every day, ate only healthy food, didn't drink alcohol, etc. The first thing I thought about when I found out I had cancer was - the ice cream I hadn't eaten in years. I went right out and bought 2 Ben and Jerry's and ate them. Of course, I was sick because I'm lactose intolerent.!!! From that moment on I decided I would do what I wanted. I drink wine occasionally, eat ice cream all the time (Yogurt once a day keeps my stomach in good shape), and I do still exercise but if I miss a day or 3 that's ok too. Life is mostly good!

[Tink]

Donna, we're all entitled to have a pity party for ourselves occasionally. It's just when we get in that rut and can't pull back out that we're wasting our time. No one deserves to be miserable, and unless we decide to enjoy life, it's not going to happen. We'd love to have you join the rest of us middle agers in being silly and friends and support for each other. It's amazing how much fun it can be just to talk with these wonderful ladies. I know they've lifted me out of several slumps.

[Janet]

Originally Posted by Tink

Donna, we're all entitled to have a pity party for ourselves occasionally. It's just when we get in that rut and can't pull back out that we're wasting our time. No one deserves to be miserable, and unless we decide to enjoy life, it's not going to happen. We'd love to have you join the rest of us middle agers in being silly and friends and support for each other. It's amazing how much fun it can be just to talk with these wonderful ladies. I know they've lifted me out of several slumps.

Because we love you silly!!!

Donna, you just come here...we'll love ya so much you won't think about it anymore...

[Marilyn]

Donna, you've been given lots of encouragement here. All I can say is AMEN!! and wish you the best.

Have you thought about making soap??? I've been toying with the idea and it looks more interesting than it sounds. There is lots of information on the web. Just a thought.....

[donna1990]

I appreciate all of you and the help that you are giving me. We cuddle in bed every night. I love him.

[Tink]

Donna, that the way it should be. Sad that so few can say that... what a blessing. With that kind of love between you I know you'll find a way.

[pearl]

i'm 54 years old. to cuddle up and snuggle...it feels soooo very close.

[katcarasella]

Originally Posted by donna1990

I appreciate all of you and the help that you are giving me. We cuddle in bed every night. I love him.

Donna,
I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers, My husband was only ill for 9 months when I lost him. We cuddled every night too, even that last night and I'm so grateful for those memories.
PM me if you ever need to talk.

[donna1990]

Originally Posted by katcarasella

Donna,
I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers, My husband was only ill for 9 months when I lost him. We cuddled every night too, even that last night and I'm so grateful for those memories.
PM me if you ever need to talk.

Looked at your picture, he surely looked like a fun loving guy. So sorry, what happened to him? When my husband went through his cancer treatments he was not physically sick but he was a ragging maniac, horrible temper, due to hormones. I had to walk on egg shells, it was awful, but worth it to see him so healthy again.
Thanks Kat,
Donna