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Old 10-21-2006, 12:01 AM   #1
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Are you romantic?

I am not a romantic AT ALLLLLL
never have been
and I really doubt I ever will be

but my boyfriend is this total romantic
and I feel bad because I'm like "ugh"
and it's just boring and irritating to me

is anyone else like me?

or am I just an odd one ha ha ha!
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Old 10-21-2006, 08:29 AM   #2
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I am sure not everybody is a romantic nor is this a bad thing. It sounds like you have a very nice boyfriend. Him taking the time to show you romance is his way of telling you he cares.

He'd possibly be hurt to know that you found it boring or bothersome. So when he shows his way of caring find yourself being one of the lucky ones!!

Many women are the opposite wishing their boyfriends/husband were more romantic. I myself LOVE romance and try to add those "special touches" whenever possible. My husband is a romantic person also.
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Old 10-21-2006, 12:18 PM   #3
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Hmmm.... i think my husband is more romantic than me. We walk hand in hand and all that, but when it comes to small details, i find myself in a hurry so often i have to tell myself to slow down, and take note of the small details etc etc...
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Old 10-21-2006, 01:41 PM   #4
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I am not a romantic AT ALLLLLL
never have been
and I really doubt I ever will be

but my boyfriend is this total romantic
and I feel bad because I'm like "ugh"
and it's just boring and irritating to me

is anyone else like me?

or am I just an odd one ha ha ha!

Oh i wouldnt worry too much. I see your still young Heck at your age i didnt even know the meaning of romance, but ive improved a bit after ALL those years
So you see, life changes us as we age LOL
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Old 10-21-2006, 02:17 PM   #5
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Oh i wouldnt worry too much. I see your still young Heck at your age i didnt even know the meaning of romance, but ive improved a bit after ALL those years
So you see, life changes us as we age LOL

Big Time!!! It's amazing that the way we were a few years ago doesn't even match who we are today. At times your head spins and you wonder what the hell happened. LOL!!
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Old 10-23-2006, 10:51 AM   #6
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im not and i tell you this, if i dont straighten up, im gonna be without a b/f real soon... help
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Old 10-23-2006, 10:59 AM   #7
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im not and i tell you this, if i dont straighten up, im gonna be without a b/f real soon... help
I think it's tough to " pretend" to be romantic if it's not in your personallity.

Hey i could use some good tips on the "romance trip" too... so lets hang in here and wait for response, i'm sure some ladies will have great ideas
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Old 10-23-2006, 11:05 AM   #8
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ok mandy we shall wait..
c'mon girls hellp us out here, im for sure need help in this area....only cause its mainly embarassing for me....
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Old 10-23-2006, 01:07 PM   #9
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Come on Mandy and Gina.....men are visual...you can figure it out!!! LOLOL

1. Fix a nice light supper, candles, music and that perfect gown....

2. They also like (at times) when you're looking exceptionally good, to watch them at whatever they're doing. Just sharing.


Men are so easy to please.....the suckers!!! LMAO.......LOL
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Old 10-24-2006, 09:02 AM   #10
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Come on Mandy and Gina.....men are visual...you can figure it out!!! LOLOL

1. Fix a nice light supper, candles, music and that perfect gown....

2. They also like (at times) when you're looking exceptionally good, to watch them at whatever they're doing. Just sharing.


Men are so easy to please.....the suckers!!! LMAO.......LOL
Those are GREAT tips Janet! Way to go!! It is so true about "watching whatever they're doing". Men somehow do get turned on by that! Guess it makes them feel all masculine and all, LOL. Hell, whatever works right??

And the dinner, candles, and barely nothing on works perfectly everytime! Even though we as woman don't like that sorta attire, sometimes we gotta just grin and bare it! (no pun intended, LOL)
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Old 10-25-2006, 12:28 AM   #11
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Come on Mandy and Gina.....men are visual...you can figure it out!!! LOLOL

1. Fix a nice light supper, candles, music and that perfect gown....

2. They also like (at times) when you're looking exceptionally good, to watch them at whatever they're doing. Just sharing.


Men are so easy to please.....the suckers!!! LMAO.......LOL

Great tips, i like candles and dinner, gosh i burn candles through the whole house EVERY night, but never at dinner time, but you know i was thinking? After the candles with dinner, the party starts?
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Old 12-17-2006, 03:02 PM   #12
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I'm surprised more people didn't answer this....

before my husband got sick OMG he was the biggest romantic.....I'm very touchy and huggy but I think he had me beat. Now things are totally different and I miss it... but I make up for it with the girls - and once in a while I can lay near him and be ok .... but it's really hard to get romantic with oxygen tubes all over the place.... he's totally out of commission in that department now so .......let's just say I'm very glad I have a great imagination when I'm sleeping lol.....

I look at it this way - We've only been married 6 years but it feels like a lot longer.
& my life was always fun. I have no regrets for anything and always managed to do all that I wanted to do ......I have great friends and used to have a really great social life - Now it's time to be serious and not dwell on the things I don't have anymore.
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Old 12-17-2006, 04:57 PM   #13
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I love romance...Eric is a very loving person...typical Italian!! Loves to hug, kiss and if I want to sit with him and snuggle he will but romantic!? NO! I tell him I want him to be romantic... He tries but, he makes me laugh when he does..can't help it..but, I know that he loves me and he will ALWAYS hold my hand...no matter where we are...It's nice to have a husband like Eric..My first husband would NEVER hold my hand, hug me and the only kiss I would get is when he would go to work and come home and that was usually a peck on the cheek! And I was married to him for 19 yrs!! Second time around was much better...in ALL departments
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Old 12-17-2006, 05:17 PM   #14
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I love romance...Eric is a very loving person...typical Italian!! Loves to hug, kiss and if I want to sit with him and snuggle he will but romantic!? NO! I tell him I want him to be romantic... He tries but, he makes me laugh when he does..can't help it..but, I know that he loves me and he will ALWAYS hold my hand...no matter where we are...It's nice to have a husband like Eric..My first husband would NEVER hold my hand, hug me and the only kiss I would get is when he would go to work and come home and that was usually a peck on the cheek! And I was married to him for 19 yrs!! Second time around was much better...in ALL departments

Brenda!! My husband is italian, so what!! lol he is not so romantic at all.. I married the wrong italian...lol I am very romantic he is not.. He shows his love in other ways, helping around house, cooking if I am working etc... Can't have it all I guess...

But I agree with what Janet says, spice it up girls .. Men are very visual and that is a turn on to them...
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Old 12-18-2006, 07:07 AM   #15
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Brenda!! My husband is italian, so what!! lol he is not so romantic at all.. I married the wrong italian...lol I am very romantic he is not.. He shows his love in other ways, helping around house, cooking if I am working etc... Can't have it all I guess...

But I agree with what Janet says, spice it up girls .. Men are very visual and that is a turn on to them...
My hubby sounds like yours, not very physical or romantic, but he does help around the house a lot.

As far as visual that's correct, the only way I've found to really start his engine is to give him a totally clean landing strip (if you know what I'm saying), gets him going every time.
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