Nice "friend"

[Janet]

Well good luck....but I have to tell you...you are going to have to step up to the plate or you're going to have people walk on you your whole life. Start getting in practice now......

[Lindsey]

I know, I'm really not good at standing up for myself. It took soooo much courage the first time I talked to her about it. I think if this were a situation like if we worked together and it would be long term, I would either tell my roommate to leave, or find a new roommate and I would be gone. But right now it's not worth it for the month and a half we're living here.
And even though they've known her for longer, my boyfriend and his friends are pretty much on my side about this whole situation, which makes me feel better about saying anything to her. Before I was just worried it would cause a big rift when everyone was getting together.
BTW, she did show up last night while I was on the phone in my room. I didn't even hear her come in, but when I brought the phone back out, there were her ratty old sandals at the front door. I let my dog chew on them a bit

[Lindsey]

So she was pumped all day about going out to a halloween cabaret tonight, and i was pumped all day about being able to do homework, with three reports due tomorrow, and maybe get some sleep. But before I knew it, she was walking right in the front door. I said "aren't you going out?" and she made a sad face and said "no, i have a headache. I think I'm starting to get sick." and I said "Well then, stay away from me." she rolled her eyes at me and said "yeah okay" and she went downstairs. I'm still getting over being sick from the last time she was sick.
My boyfriend called again tonight and I told him the situation again (and complained loud enough for both her and my roommate to hear), and he was like "You know what, if you want to get mad at her, just do it. It's not going to ruin anything with us or my friends. More than anything, we all just think she's really annoying, and what she's doing to you is just selfish and uncalled for."
I hope I have the courage to do this.

[Janet]

Good luck Lindsey! Don't worry about courage...just tell her "look, I have homework, studying, and things that I need to get done. If you're going to be here, then you need to help clean, cook...and HELP WITH THE RENT and then show her what her share is. That ought to scare her!

If you don't think that will work...just tell her flat out how you feel and tell her you want to keep her as a friend, but it won't happen if she doesn't give you space. Your apartment is YOUR space and make it clear.

[Mandy]

Sounds like your friend needs to use her common sense!! Doesnt she have homework to do or clean her place or anything?

Start countdown now Lindsey, your almost there!

[Lindsey]

Well we both get about the same amount of sleep, but she just sleeps all day in school. There's NO WAY I could do that, so I come home after school and usually have a little nap, while she does her homework after school. Also, her project advisor isn't expecting as much of her as mine is of me, so I work on my project a LOT whenever I have a free minute, but she's barely touched hers. And when she's really behind, she just comes over and copies off my roommate.

[khardy57]

You're a better person than I am. This would've been hashed out a long time ago if it were me. You need to talk to her again and lay it on the line. I wouldn't worry about hurting feelings, because she's not worried about how her behavior is affecting you.