i think i need to put some fire under his... hiney :)

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Originally Posted by tumblnstar

lol i saw the comment about the cow and the milk and i say out loud "oh no i still have my milk!!!" no we dont have sex or anything like it... we are waiting until we get married... hopefully that will be together and its soo weird that i cant talk to him about it...its like im soo afraid that he will say that its not what he wants that i dont even want to ask! its crazy.. we really do have such open conversation about everything....except this!... i think it really streams from the fact that we arent romantic..or mushy..so we dont really sit down and say ok... we are in love lets get married. im just going to have to get up the courage and sit down and ask the question. im just terrified that he's not going to want to marry me. im 21 by the way and hes 29. i know i know all of you ladies are going to say..youre too young ... but if youve gone what i have gone through since i was 16.. you'd be ready to settle down and have babies too

I don't think you're too young to get married. I was 21 when I got married, which was over a year ago. I know people thought that I was too young to get married, but I think it is more of a maturity factor than an age factor. I am a lot more mature than almost all of my friends and it was the right time for me to get married. That does not mean that all 21 year olds are ready for marriage. Everyone is different.

Have you ever read the book or heard of the book He's Just Not That Into You which is written by one of the male writers for the show Sex In The City?? It is very enlightening! I own it and have read it cover to cover many many times. If you want to read it but don't want to go out and buy it, let me know and I'll mail you my copy. I think this book will really help you build the confidence to just straight up ask your bf if he is into you enough to get married or not. I know you are scared. But wouldn't you rather know NOW if he doesn't want to marry you so you can get on with your life than wait until you are even more invested in this relationship to find out?? If he doesn't want to put in the kind of commitment that you are willing to, you don't need to waste your time on him. I know that is hard to accept and he may not even be this way at all, but that is something that you DEFINATELY need to find out before you take your feelings and your emotions any further.

Seriously, if you want to read this book, let me know and I'll send it to you. It is SO good. It is short and to the point. You could read it in a couple of hours. It is one of Oprah's all-time favorite books. I think EVERY girl, woman, preteen, teen should read it.