Sometimes I don't know him

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Judy is right, you are talking about basic fundamental values and beliefs. These values and beliefs drive our behavior - that is why Scott behaves differently than you.

Betsi is also right about showing caring and compassion in ways other than giving money. Is he a caring person to others? Would he help someone because they needed it, is he kind and considerate to others (not just you), how does he treat animals (not just Layla). You don't have to give money to be compassionate, but to be compassionate you do have to want to help your fellow man.

These fundamental belief differences will cause a big problem later, because as I said, beliefs, values, and philosophy of life drives all your behavior. Now, I'm not saying you are Scott are different, that you have fundamental differences - I see money differences but maybe that's all - and maybe deep down you and he are not all that different. But the money thing can be problematic, especially if he doesn't see the money in a marriage as OUR money. THAT can be VERY VERY problematic.

Good luck Lindsay. You are a VERY smart girl, you will figure it out and do the right thing!