Should we keep quiet?

Tink · 11-04-2006, 04:54 PM

I guess I should have added that we've had KT in counseling off and on since she was 12. She's currently going weekly. At one point we got her on a 72 hr hold in a psych unit because she'd taken a load of dramamine (with an older guy) and was hallucinating. She also spent about 2 weeks in a treatment center for her drinking.

She's tested regularly now, (since she's on probation for her numerous underage drinking charges) and has been drug free for over a year. The drinking is another story. She's doing less of it, but still indulges at times. Neither her Dad nor I drink at all, so it's never kept at home, but she manages to find older friends who will buy it for her. I think that's where she gets connected with all these slimeballs. She hangs out with them so they'll buy her alcohol.

She got her first underage drinking ticket when she was 12. She was passed out and dumped in an unheated RV after she got drunk with some older boys. One of them raped her, and bragged about it to someone who knew Katie. That person THANK GOD called us and we went and found her. It was well below zero that night, so there's a very good chance she'd have died of hypothermia before the night was over if they hadn't called us.

As far as we knew, she was spending the night with a friend that night. We knew the friend, the parents, and thought she was safe. That was the start of this very scary time.

RLC12345678 · 11-04-2006, 05:34 PM

I am so sorry that you are having to go through all this with your daughter. You are definately doing the right thing by having her in counseling. It sounds like you are doing all the right things. I do not have children so I have no idea how I would handle something like this. Do you think it would help for you and your husband to talk to a professional as well? Maybe a family counselor who can help you and your husband decide how to handle these types of situations. Maybe you and your hubby could go together and then you both go with your daughter. It just sounds like nothing you are doing seems to be helping but something DEFINATELY needs to be done, and soon, before something else terrible happens. I watch the show Intervention on A&E and on every single episode, the families have to get counseling as well as the one who is having problems. The family has to go through counseling so they will know how to handle situations when they arise. Maybe something like this would be beneficial to you and your husband.

khardy57 · 11-04-2006, 06:52 PM

Does she still live with you and your husband? Also, since she's on probation, can you talk to her probation officer? I thought if someone was on probation, they had to be very careful who they associated with.

khardy57 · 11-04-2006, 06:54 PM

I forgot to tell you how sorry I am that you're going thru this. Problems with children can really tear you up.

11-04-2006, 04:54 PM	#1
Tink Donating 4WT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Rural Wisconsin Posts: 3,707	I guess I should have added that we've had KT in counseling off and on since she was 12. She's currently going weekly. At one point we got her on a 72 hr hold in a psych unit because she'd taken a load of dramamine (with an older guy) and was hallucinating. She also spent about 2 weeks in a treatment center for her drinking. She's tested regularly now, (since she's on probation for her numerous underage drinking charges) and has been drug free for over a year. The drinking is another story. She's doing less of it, but still indulges at times. Neither her Dad nor I drink at all, so it's never kept at home, but she manages to find older friends who will buy it for her. I think that's where she gets connected with all these slimeballs. She hangs out with them so they'll buy her alcohol. She got her first underage drinking ticket when she was 12. She was passed out and dumped in an unheated RV after she got drunk with some older boys. One of them raped her, and bragged about it to someone who knew Katie. That person THANK GOD called us and we went and found her. It was well below zero that night, so there's a very good chance she'd have died of hypothermia before the night was over if they hadn't called us. As far as we knew, she was spending the night with a friend that night. We knew the friend, the parents, and thought she was safe. That was the start of this very scary time. __________________ 'A simple way to take measure of a country is to look at how many want in.. And how many want out.' England 's Prime Minister Tony Blair'

11-04-2006, 05:34 PM	#2
RLC12345678 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,614	I am so sorry that you are having to go through all this with your daughter. You are definately doing the right thing by having her in counseling. It sounds like you are doing all the right things. I do not have children so I have no idea how I would handle something like this. Do you think it would help for you and your husband to talk to a professional as well? Maybe a family counselor who can help you and your husband decide how to handle these types of situations. Maybe you and your hubby could go together and then you both go with your daughter. It just sounds like nothing you are doing seems to be helping but something DEFINATELY needs to be done, and soon, before something else terrible happens. I watch the show Intervention on A&E and on every single episode, the families have to get counseling as well as the one who is having problems. The family has to go through counseling so they will know how to handle situations when they arise. Maybe something like this would be beneficial to you and your husband. __________________ Rebecca "To whom much is given, much is expected." ~Luke 12:48

11-04-2006, 06:52 PM	#3
khardy57 Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 278	Does she still live with you and your husband? Also, since she's on probation, can you talk to her probation officer? I thought if someone was on probation, they had to be very careful who they associated with.

11-04-2006, 06:54 PM	#4
khardy57 Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 278	I forgot to tell you how sorry I am that you're going thru this. Problems with children can really tear you up.

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