Hectic!

[Lindsey]

I haven't been around here but I've been trying to keep up with reading posts while I'm at work. But work has been busy too so I haven't been able to reply much!

As most of you know, we got the house! We move on Saturday So we have been packing like CRAZY! And I've been so excited about it for so long that it just feels exhausting to even think about it anymore.

On top of that there was a lot of drama a couple weeks ago with my brother's girlfriend and she kind of went off on our whole family and things have been quite awkward on that front. It's too stupid to even get into, but basically it started with being about my mom and now it's all of a sudden all on ME. I'm just trying to ignore it and be the bigger person but it's tough.

I just spent Easter with my grandma and family on my mom's side. I brought Scott there with me, the first time a boyfriend has met that side of my family! Everyone seemed to love him. We rented a motel room, and it was the worst place I've EVER stayed As soon as we checked in, I had to use the washroom and the toilet wasn't flushed from the last user In the morning I tried to have a shower but the cold water didn't turn on AT ALL. It was scalding hot! Scott brought out his swiss army knife and fixed that himself. Later that day we realized there were spiders everywhere Needless to say, we will never stay there again. This morning we left and Scott was going to complain to get some money back, but nobody was around and he just had to drop the keys in a slot.

And there's what I've been up to lately! And now I have to go finish laundry and keep packing!

[paula1961]

Hey there! I was wandering about you and what you were up to. I figured that you were really busy with your new house. I know how excited you must be. Wow...moving on Saturday. I can't wait to see pics when you get everything the way you want it. I think you and Scott will be very happy there. And Layla too!

Sorry about the tiff in your family. I hope everything works out with that real soon. I just hate those awkward moments at family gatherings when someone is mad at another member of the family.

That hotel you two stayed at sounds just horrible!! Spiders I wouldn't stay there again either.
Glad you spent your Easter with your Grandma and that they all liked Scott really well.

[DIANE W]

Hi Lindsey..... I have been wondering what was going on with you, wow moving on Saturday, things seem to really happen much quicker than in UK. It is so exciting i bet you just cant wait, though moving is stressful, i just love making a house a home.... unpacking.... sleeping there first night.... washing up.... cleaning oh listen to me going on.

I am pleased for you, good too that you spent time with your family. I think you are doing right not getting caught up in all that strife with family arguments, i know it is tough though, just try to not let them bother you.

Keep positive, new start, new life and NEW HOUSE from Saturday - Whooooooo.

[Lindsey]

Thanks!!! Diane, this possession happened very quickly. When I bought my condo, it was about 2 months between making the offer and actually being able to move in. But in this case, the people have been trying to sell the house for 7 months and it has been vacant since January. The guy who bought my condo wanted to get in as soon as possible so he asked for a possession date of April 15th... I wasn't going to turn it down because it was a great offer! So we asked to get possession of the house the weekend before, so we could have our families come in to help us move.

There are so many little things we overlooked that are stressing me out a bit. I planned to use the money from the condo sale to pay for closing costs, and just realized we close on the house before the condo, so now I have to come up with a few thousand dollars So Scott and I will have to dip into some savings accounts and try to come up with enough this week. And I'm starting to stress that we won't have enough time in the evenings this week to finish our packing.

With the stuff about my brother's girlfriend, I did get really upset for a few days. I let my brother know I was very upset too. He said he understands and I didn't deserve what she did or said, but that I can't expect an apology because she's the kind of person who will never apologize. But it's really hard for me to pretend nothing's going on when she makes it very obvious she's ignoring me and Scott, or when she says things about my family on facebook She deleted the facebook stuff but I was sure fuming while it was there. I just want to protect my family.

[DianaB]

How exciting!!! You're moving THIS weekend!!!! I wish that I could be there to see it after you get all settled......I guess I'll have to settle for pictures!! I've always wanted a big old victorian house to raise my family in but with Glen farming we had to settle for houses in a certain area so I'm definitely excited for you!!!

I'm so sorry about the drama in your family. This girl must be really rude to say things on FB. I would lose a lot of respect for her over that. I'm sorry that she's attacking you and your Mother. You are certainly "the bigger person" for ignoring her remarks. It sounds to me like your brother needs a new girlfriend.

The motel sounds awful! We have a Better Business Bureau here in the U.S. where you can complain about businesses. I don't know if you have anything like that in Canada but I'd find out and give them a call. We've called ours a couple of times. I hope that it didn't spoil your weekend.

[DIANE W]

Originally Posted by Lindsey

Thanks!!! Diane, this possession happened very quickly. When I bought my condo, it was about 2 months between making the offer and actually being able to move in. But in this case, the people have been trying to sell the house for 7 months and it has been vacant since January. The guy who bought my condo wanted to get in as soon as possible so he asked for a possession date of April 15th... I wasn't going to turn it down because it was a great offer! So we asked to get possession of the house the weekend before, so we could have our families come in to help us move.

There are so many little things we overlooked that are stressing me out a bit. I planned to use the money from the condo sale to pay for closing costs, and just realized we close on the house before the condo, so now I have to come up with a few thousand dollars So Scott and I will have to dip into some savings accounts and try to come up with enough this week. And I'm starting to stress that we won't have enough time in the evenings this week to finish our packing.

With the stuff about my brother's girlfriend, I did get really upset for a few days. I let my brother know I was very upset too. He said he understands and I didn't deserve what she did or said, but that I can't expect an apology because she's the kind of person who will never apologize. But it's really hard for me to pretend nothing's going on when she makes it very obvious she's ignoring me and Scott, or when she says things about my family on facebook She deleted the facebook stuff but I was sure fuming while it was there. I just want to protect my family.

Hi Lindsey

Oh dear it seems you are getting a lot of stress with everything going on. It is so exciting moving, but the downsides are pretty difficult too, at least you have a way of making it work out, even though it will take some juggling around, and you have your family to help out too.

Will you be able to take some time off work?

I totally understand how you feel i have moved myself last August, and it certainly takes a lot or organising. I felt as if i was packing, planing and preparing for ever - yet not getting anywhere

I wish you all the luck in the world, with everything, I agree with Diana, i think your brother deserves a nicer girlfriend, hopefully he will realise this for himself soon - errrrrr if only it was that simple eh?

[Lindsey]

I know my brother deserves better than her, but he will do anything to stay together because the little girls consider him their daddy now. She was threatening to leave and packing up her stuff but he did all he could to calm her down, and doesn't want the rest of us to do anything to make her upset. Obviously none of us TRIED to make her upset. It started from her overhearing my mom saying she wished she would offer to help out in the kitchen when they visited. I know I had issues with Scott's mom as well but we settled it privately and I never tried to bring the rest of his family into it. I really hope she doesn't limit the time we can spend with the little girls, because we all really love them. I rarely see them anymore.

Diana, I don't know if there is anything really reportable in the hotel room... the bedding and towels were clean, but we did choose the cheapest place and they let Layla stay there free of charge (even though there was a sign on the door saying no pets allowed!). I guess next time we'll know we get what we pay for!

I can't believe there's only a few days left to pack! I still have a lot of clothes and some shoes to pack, and we haven't even STARTED on the kitchen yet!

I don't think I'll be taking any time off work either. I thought I might take next Monday off, but I'm already taking so much time off for bank appointments, lawyer meetings, etc, that I don't think I should take any more. I thought it would be nice to be there with Layla for a full day though, instead of leaving her alone for a whole day not long after she gets there!

[gja1000]

Oh Lindsay! I'm so excited for you, I can't believe that you are moving into MY dream house. Sorry Diana, it's MY dream house, you'll have to find another! LOL! Just like Diana, I always wanted an old Victorian house - but alas, never will. I'll just have to come visit!

You will get through the move and it will be soooo stressful, but soooo worth it in the end!

[Lindsey]

You all can come visit! 4WT meet-up at my house!

Oh my goodness, I thought we had all our ducks in a row, and then it hit me this morning that we forgot to get insurance!!! So after our bank meeting we went to get insurance and we sat there choosing our policy for over an hour So on top of taking an hour and a half of banked time, I also lost my whole lunch break! Tomorrow we're going to the lawyer to sign papers. Not only will I be glad to be done with all of this, I'm sure my work will be too... As soon as I leave, everyone needs me! Oh well, serves them right for not hiring a second drafter!

[judy]

I can't believe you are moving so soon! I feel for you about packing, paperwork, lawyers, etc. Lots of stress! Try to take it one minute at a time. I am so glad that you have Scott by your side Linds! Together, you two will help each other get through the move, and then you can love being in your own, absolutely beautiful, new house!

Sorry about the evil girlfriend, and the spidery hotel room! Yuck to both! She doesn't know how lucky she is to be a part of your family! You are right to ignore it. Everything eventually works out, and the less drama the better.

Take deep breaths, and remember how much we all love you!

[Lindsey]

Thank you so much Judy!! I'm starting to calm down tonight. We're on the phone now pricing out monitoring for our security system, because it gives us BIG breaks on insurance! I'm starting to calm down a bit. I just can't wait for it to be next week already so I won't have to stress anymore! I am so lucky to have Scott with me this time around. I was stressed out buying the condo too, but this is so much bigger! And it's funny, one of us always seems to be stressing out while the other one isn't. It's a nice balance! Lol

I just talked with my mom and she's sad that she has to work this weekend and won't be here to help us move. She's doing her part anyway, slicing up some ham and turkey and sending it with a box full of buns, butter, veggies, paper plates, and plastic utensils, so we don't have to worry about making something to eat for lunch while we're moving Yay for moms!