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I am happy that things went well...just a word of caution..
After an abuser beats the crap out of his wife...he tells her he's sorry, loves her, don't know why he acted that way, won't happen again--------------and then it does.
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11-08-2006, 08:29 AM
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the way phil looked last night when he was talking to me.. i knew that he was sincere. but i most definately let him know that the way he spoke to me was unacceptable. and now he knows that the consequences of another outburst will be losing me. i just hope he can learn to open up and get away from the patterns of his father and childhood.
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11-08-2006, 08:44 AM
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I know what you are saying, I came from a family that bottled everything up all the time. It's taken me a lot of work to get better about talking about things before they become a major issue. I still have melt downs, but I'm better. If he knows he has this problem & is willing to work on overcoming it, you should be fine, but it might take a while until the outbursts are completely gone. therapy would probably help him deal with these deep seeded issues. |
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11-08-2006, 09:09 AM
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Some couples have a "date" night, maybe you and he could have a special time every couple of days to let things out. Maybe that would help. I sincerely wish the best for you and Phil and hope you didn't take my previous post as a warning. I just wanted you to be more aware in the future. Best wishes!!!
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that is sucha good idea!! i was trying to think of a way that he could feel comfortable and sort of obligated to just let all of those emotions out and having a planned night to sit and talk is great! thanks so much! yall have been so helpful through everything and i cant tell you enough how much i appreciate it. lets just hope that phil can realize his shortcomings and i can as well.. so that we can work together and build a strong communicating relationship. |
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11-08-2006, 04:02 PM
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I'm glad everything worked out for you. And you're right about men...they bottle stuff in, and then flip out. We women usually like to talk about everything as soon as it comes up.
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I, too, am happy that things have seemed to work out. I would still HIGHLY recommend to you read He's Just Not That Into You. I'm not saying that your bf isn't into you, but it is very enlightening.
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I'm sorry to be so negative, I just don't want you to get hurt...I want to help people, with the knowledge that I learned from a horrible past. On a brighter side, I sincerely hope that he's sorry, and he didn't mean it, and that it won't ever happen again. Just be careful please!!!!
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Amen sister!! Just listen to your gut from now on , it will direct you into making the right decisions.. Good luck.. |
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this is so true! Just please be careful and trust your instinct, even if it is telling you to do something that you don't want to do.
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I am glad things worked out for you. It sure would be nice if men came with a manual! Men are like that. I haven't met one that didn't keep at least a few things bottled up.
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You got that right!  I just want to ad one more thing, ALWAYS listen to your "gut feeling" ... never ignore it, because that "tiny voice" is always right!! Best wishes to you, and good luck
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you took the words right out of my mouth! And take it from someone who's been there...verbal and emotional abuse are the worse....sorry can only work so many times then it gets old...Men feel if they say they're sorry it makes it better..well it does if they don't do it again...if you are sorry you DON'T do it again...
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EXACTLY !!!!! Of course, it should never happen in the first place!
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amen! i agree... and i let phil know that this was NOT something that i would put myself through.. so lets pray that he is aware and can openly talk and get his problems out in the open and not screaming them at me! if only boys were girls.... life would be easier lol |
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