Took my son to the docter last week

[Mandy]

He is still not doing well at all.
Since a few days he is coughing REAL BAD, he's throat is sore and has swollen glands.

He has problems at school with he's mentor. I know he really is doing he's best, and i don't know what more i can ask of him?
He's mentor is real strict, which is good thing, but somehow my son can't seem to please him, or at least, that's the feeling he get's.

At the end of this month it's teacher/parent evening, so i will speak to him.

[Janet]

Originally Posted by Mandy

He is still not doing well at all.
Since a few days he is coughing REAL BAD, he's throat is sore and has swollen glands.

He has problems at school with he's mentor. I know he really is doing he's best, and i don't know what more i can ask of him?
He's mentor is real strict, which is good thing, but somehow my son can't seem to please him, or at least, that's the feeling he get's.

At the end of this month it's teacher/parent evening, so i will speak to him.

Yes Mandy, you need to keep the communication going. At my son's school each teacher has a school email address, so it is so easy to discuss things. Sometimes it's so hard to get our times convenient to meet, so the emailing is so helpful.

[DianaB]

Originally Posted by Mandy

He is still not doing well at all.
Since a few days he is coughing REAL BAD, he's throat is sore and has swollen glands.

He has problems at school with he's mentor. I know he really is doing he's best, and i don't know what more i can ask of him?
He's mentor is real strict, which is good thing, but somehow my son can't seem to please him, or at least, that's the feeling he get's.

At the end of this month it's teacher/parent evening, so i will speak to him.

Can you see about getting him a different mentor? How they feel about themselves is very important. More important than grades.

A couple of years ago my daughter was struggling with her reading. She had to read books at a certain reading level that wasn't comfortable for her to read in. I tried to get it lowered but couldn't. I decided that I would just remind her every day that she needed to read because if she didn't make her quota then her english grade would be lowered a whole grade.

I reminded her and reminded her and one day I got her 5 week grades in the mail. When she got home I was getting on to her (She's very mild mannered and so you NEVER yell at her). She turned pale and said that she felt sick and turned around to go to the bathroom. Then she passed out cold on the floor! My husband was there with me when it happened and it scared us both!! She woke right back up and was fine. I swore that there was no grade that was worth the stress that she was feeling over all of this. I never said another word about it. She never reached her reading goal at all that year or part of the next year, but I didn't care. Her health was more important to me.

Last year she had a special reading class and a wonderful teacher and I'm happy to say that she has greatly improved in her reading and actually seems to enjoy it now.

Do what you can to make this a better situation. Your son's well being is more important than any grade!!

[Mandy]

Originally Posted by DianaB

Can you see about getting him a different mentor? How they feel about themselves is very important. More important than grades.

A couple of years ago my daughter was struggling with her reading. She had to read books at a certain reading level that wasn't comfortable for her to read in. I tried to get it lowered but couldn't. I decided that I would just remind her every day that she needed to read because if she didn't make her quota then her english grade would be lowered a whole grade.

I reminded her and reminded her and one day I got her 5 week grades in the mail. When she got home I was getting on to her (She's very mild mannered and so you NEVER yell at her). She turned pale and said that she felt sick and turned around to go to the bathroom. Then she passed out cold on the floor! My husband was there with me when it happened and it scared us both!! She woke right back up and was fine. I swore that there was no grade that was worth the stress that she was feeling over all of this. I never said another word about it. She never reached her reading goal at all that year or part of the next year, but I didn't care. Her health was more important to me.

Last year she had a special reading class and a wonderful teacher and I'm happy to say that she has greatly improved in her reading and actually seems to enjoy it now.

Do what you can to make this a better situation. Your son's well being is more important than any grade!!

I agree, school puts them under a lot of pressure.
He loves he's school, and get's very good grades, but it sounds like he's mentor wants it all to be perfect, like last week he had to make a project for biology, he showed me, and to me it looked fine, so he took it to school, he had to redo it, he worked very hard on it, and took it back the next day, he sent it back again for him to redo, he redid it again for the third time. That next day he's mentor told him to come into school 2 hours earlier to redo it again, because he was still not happy with the way it looked. My son was soooooo upset.
Anyway, he did as he was told, he's mentor was surprised to see him at school that early? I mean really... either i'm not getting it, or the school system is totally confused.
But i am not leaving it like this, i will have a good talk to he's mentor at teacher/parents evening.

[DianaB]

I'm glad that you're going to have a talk with his mentor. That's outrageous to make a child redo something so many times. It's the child's work, not the mentor's. And to have a child come in 2 hours early for school. I would have had that teacher on the phone the night before and asked questions about that one. Something's not right. Your mentor sounds like a perfectionist, which is fine for his own work, but shouldn't expect someone else to do things at standards that they have set for themselves. Good luck in your little talk.

[Janet]

I'm not one to actually "tell" someone what to do, but Mandy, I wouldn't wait until the end of the month. His mentor and school officials need to know how important this is. Not something that can wait. My heart is going out to your son. That mentor can do some damage if he keeps it up.

[khardy57]

Originally Posted by Janet

I'm not one to actually "tell" someone what to do, but Mandy, I wouldn't wait until the end of the month. His mentor and school officials need to know how important this is. Not something that can wait. My heart is going out to your son. That mentor can do some damage if he keeps it up.

I agree! I'd also take him to another doctor even if it had to be out of town.