Guess She's Going To Florida

[Marilyn]

She may realize that serious problems could happen, but enjoys her life there so much that she's willing to take the risk. It's a selfish attitude for sure, but as stated, what will be will be. It may sound harsh, but if she passes while she is there, she will be in a place where she is obviously happy, and she may be considering this. She just may not be considering the inbetween that could happen, that she could become seriously ill, rather than pass on and cause real problems for everyone.

Hugs, and hope all turns out well for you and her.

[Janet]

You know....as difficult as Mom can be...I really don't think she'd be here today if she wasn't...lol. That 87 year old woman is gutsy for sure!

[judy]

That is probably true Janet! You know, you have to take the bad with the good.

I really understand. My mother was the same - selfish! She was very sick, and died young. She smoked, and cheated on her diet. She had heart disease, rheumatic fever and emphysema. That woman smoked with an oxygen tank next to her bed!

Looking back now though, I am glad that she did enjoy and experience the life she had. She was tough and very selfish, but that's who she was. She was never going to change. I cannot imagine her laying in bed and tending to her health, living like an invalid. She would have been so unhappy. She probably wouldn't have lived more than a few years longer anyway.

She did not really focus on how she made my father crazy with worry, or that she was not a very good mother, but he went on and had a good second marriage, and I grew up to be happy anyway.

I'm not going to tell you not to worry, or to be frustrated with her and your brother, but there is nothing you can do about it anyway.