Mom Hasn't Been Well

[Janet]

Called Mom this morning and she said she is no better...still really shaky. I tried to get her to come out here, but she said no. Said she needed her dialysis at night....I told her I knew that, but I could bring everything out to my house for a few nights...it's no trouble at all. She said no. So wanna guess who won??? LOL. She'll be the boss till she's gone I guess. Her way..or no way.

It is really hard when our parents health starts failing and there are a few of us on here going through just that. I know I can speak for all of us that we appreciate Gayle's help so much. Gayle your help in getting us to understand better what the Drs tell us is priceless...in my case, I don't know what I would do without you.

[DianaB]

Janet, I'm sorry that you're going through all of this with your Mom. Maybe this will be a sign to her that she doesn't have any business going to Florida. I hope she gets well soon. Hugs!!!

[judy]

I am so sorry to hear that Mom is not doing well Janet! It is so hard on you too!
I always have you both in my heart and prayers.

You are so right about Gayle. Gayle, you really are a blessing to all of us!

[Janet]

I was really ready to get my house cleaned up so tomorrow I could bathe the dogs. The house is a mess. So I got a couple rooms done and then Mom called. She didn't sound good and said she was feeling weaker than yesterday and getting more out of breath, that yesterday she could walk through her house as long as she held onto something...today she couldn't even stand without her cane.

I called her Dr. and was told to get her back to the hospital. Took her back to the ER and some of the same nurses were there which made Mom more comfortable. Her hemoglobin was 8 somthing yesterday when we were at the ER and today it was down to 7. One of the Drs. did a rectal exam and it was bloody, so she was admitted and when I left...on her first unit of blood. They are going to give her 2 units. She's upset because she can't have anything to eat. She will harp on that to everyone who will come into her room. They will check the hemoglobin again tomorrow and if it's still low, they will do a scope.

When I left, my brother Jerry and his wife were there and were going to stay until they move her up to her room.

Another Dr. came in and asked if she had a Living Will and of course she doesn't. So he asked her what she would want done if her heart stopped or if she wanted life saving measures taken. She told him no....she was tired of medicine, dialysis and hospitals. He looked at me and I said that it was her life...she could do what she wants.

I'll be heading back to the hospital tomorrow.

[paula1961]

Oh Janet. I am so sorry that your Mom is not doing well. I know too well what you are going through. It's so very sad to have to see them have to go thru so much when they have heart failure and kidney problems as well. Bless her heart. I will be saying lots of prayers for you and your Mom.~Hugs from me to you~

[lynne b]

I'm sorry to hear your mom is not doing better. Hopefully with her being in the hospital they will find out what is going on with her and get her back to feeling better in no time.

Call if you need anything. I will be praying for her and you as well.

[JJJ]

Janet I'm sorry your going through some hard times. Moms can be so hard headed but your right all we can do is sit back and let them run the show. Sending you lot's of hugs.

[gja1000]

I'm so glad that they got her back to the hospital. I'd be willing to bet that she knew she was bleeding rectally because if the doctor could find it with a rectal exam, then it had to be there when she had a bowel movement.

I'm just so glad that I can help you all out a little bit with medical things. I am so grateful to have this knowledge because things can be so complicated now!

I think the blood will help her to feel better - and that's the main thing, that she feels better - but unfortunately, I don't want her to feel good enough to go to FL!