Back In The Hospital

JJJ · 02-16-2011, 10:45 AM

Oh Janet I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope she starts gaining her strength back. Many cyber hugs your way.

Blueyes · 02-16-2011, 12:22 PM

So, so sorry Janet. If your mom hates the tests so much, just don't do them. Call in hospice, and they will keep her comfortable. I'm not saying this lightly, but I've been in your shoes. God bless you both!

Janet · 02-17-2011, 03:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Blueyes

So, so sorry Janet. If your mom hates the tests so much, just don't do them. Call in hospice, and they will keep her comfortable. I'm not saying this lightly, but I've been in your shoes. God bless you both!

I'm going to try and check in with Hospice, but please tell me more of your experience Betsi and just exactly what do they do?

gja1000 · 02-17-2011, 04:55 AM

Oh Janet, I'm so sorry! It is so hard when so many things are wrong and no one can seem to get them fixed. I know she is tired and wants this to be over. I think Betsi's suggestion of Hospice is a good one - they know how to help people feel comfortable and have the best quality of life at the end. And don't think that using hospice means that she is going to die in the next few weeks. Many people enter hospice and do so well, they get discharged from hospice. It is a good choice though, when people need help being comfortable without a lot of medical intervention.

judy · 02-17-2011, 07:02 AM

Hospice care makes sense for now Janet. It seems to me that going back and forth to the hospital, being tested all of the time, and getting weaker, then stronger are so stressful to the body!

You will know in your heart what is best. Hospice is not always a "last stop." She sure needs a lot of TLC, and medical professionals around. This might be just the right thing for her.

Blueyes · 02-17-2011, 07:15 AM

Hospice is great Janet. All you have to do is contact them, and they will send someone to tell you all about it. Basically, it means that you stop with all the tests, and just keep her comfortable. Oxygen or pain meds or whatever she needs to feel better, but no life saving measures. Hospice also provides emotional support for the family. Just give them a call. I used hospice for both my parents and Mike's dad, and I'm so glad I did. If you don't, the hospital and docs will just keep doing tests and procedures whether they really help or not, because that's what they have to do.

JJJ · 02-17-2011, 05:23 PM

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Originally Posted by gja1000

Oh Janet, I'm so sorry! It is so hard when so many things are wrong and no one can seem to get them fixed. I know she is tired and wants this to be over. I think Betsi's suggestion of Hospice is a good one - they know how to help people feel comfortable and have the best quality of life at the end. And don't think that using hospice means that she is going to die in the next few weeks. Many people enter hospice and do so well, they get discharged from hospice. It is a good choice though, when people need help being comfortable without a lot of medical intervention.

Hospice sounds scary but many people do well and get discharge. Talk to your mom and see if she wants to sign the DNR paper or not. That is very important especially when there moved to hospice. If she does not sign make sure they are very aware of it.

2tiredmom · 02-18-2011, 01:07 PM

Janet,

If you need to talk call me or message me on facebook. My mom had hospice too.
I stayed with her for 2 weeks before she died. They are wonderful people and will answer any questions you have no matter what time of the day or night it is.
They were a God send to us at that time. I hope shes feeling better today.
My moms care was though Home hospital in Lafayette. Your all in my prayers.
Hugs..
Linda

DianaB · 02-18-2011, 05:14 PM

I'm so sorry to hear that your Mom's back in the hospital. I'm sure that everyone's tired of dealing with everything. I've never dealt with hospice so I don't have much to say but it sounds like something to check in to. I'm here if you need me!! Hugs and prayers for you both!!!

paula1961 · 02-16-2011, 12:25 PM

So very sorry to hear this Janet. I know all too well what you're going through. I know you don't want her to suffer. It will work out like it's supposed to no matter what...it's in God's hands. Your Mom is in my prayers and so are you and your brothers. Hugs to you friend.

02-16-2011, 12:22 PM	#2
Blueyes Donating 4WT Talker Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 2,119	So, so sorry Janet. If your mom hates the tests so much, just don't do them. Call in hospice, and they will keep her comfortable. I'm not saying this lightly, but I've been in your shoes. God bless you both! __________________ Betsi

02-17-2011, 04:55 AM	#4
gja1000 Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Central Texas Posts: 5,717	Oh Janet, I'm so sorry! It is so hard when so many things are wrong and no one can seem to get them fixed. I know she is tired and wants this to be over. I think Betsi's suggestion of Hospice is a good one - they know how to help people feel comfortable and have the best quality of life at the end. And don't think that using hospice means that she is going to die in the next few weeks. Many people enter hospice and do so well, they get discharged from hospice. It is a good choice though, when people need help being comfortable without a lot of medical intervention. __________________ Gayle

02-17-2011, 07:02 AM	#5
judy Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Denver, NY Posts: 8,097	Hospice care makes sense for now Janet. It seems to me that going back and forth to the hospital, being tested all of the time, and getting weaker, then stronger are so stressful to the body! You will know in your heart what is best. Hospice is not always a "last stop." She sure needs a lot of TLC, and medical professionals around. This might be just the right thing for her. __________________ *Judy*

02-17-2011, 07:15 AM	#6
Blueyes Donating 4WT Talker Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 2,119	Hospice is great Janet. All you have to do is contact them, and they will send someone to tell you all about it. Basically, it means that you stop with all the tests, and just keep her comfortable. Oxygen or pain meds or whatever she needs to feel better, but no life saving measures. Hospice also provides emotional support for the family. Just give them a call. I used hospice for both my parents and Mike's dad, and I'm so glad I did. If you don't, the hospital and docs will just keep doing tests and procedures whether they really help or not, because that's what they have to do. __________________ Betsi

02-18-2011, 01:07 PM	#8
2tiredmom Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 1,367	Janet, If you need to talk call me or message me on facebook. My mom had hospice too. I stayed with her for 2 weeks before she died. They are wonderful people and will answer any questions you have no matter what time of the day or night it is. They were a God send to us at that time. I hope shes feeling better today. My moms care was though Home hospital in Lafayette. Your all in my prayers. Hugs.. Linda __________________ The real measure of a woman's wealth is what she has invested in eternity. Linda aka 2tiredmom

02-16-2011, 10:45 AM	#1
JJJ Donating 4WT Addict Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 1,073	Oh Janet I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope she starts gaining her strength back. Many cyber hugs your way.

02-18-2011, 05:14 PM	#9
DianaB Moderator Donating 4WT 13K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Kansas Posts: 16,069	I'm so sorry to hear that your Mom's back in the hospital. I'm sure that everyone's tired of dealing with everything. I've never dealt with hospice so I don't have much to say but it sounds like something to check in to. I'm here if you need me!! Hugs and prayers for you both!!!

02-16-2011, 12:25 PM	#10
paula1961 Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Kentucky Posts: 3,383	So very sorry to hear this Janet. I know all too well what you're going through. I know you don't want her to suffer. It will work out like it's supposed to no matter what...it's in God's hands. Your Mom is in my prayers and so are you and your brothers. Hugs to you friend.

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