Getting Help.....yay!!!

gja1000 · 05-19-2011, 11:52 AM

Good for you Janet. Unfortunately, as we age, we lose our social graces - that part of the brain just goes. The other day my mom told a man she was going to hit him over the head with her cane if he didn't leave her alone (he was only trying to talk to her). AND THEN SHE TOLD ME SHE SAID IT.

A few years ago she would never, in a million years, have said that to anyone. The point is that your mom really doesn't want "strangers" helping her, and she may say so, or act as such. Most nursing personnel understand that, but you can also understand that they get tired of that kind of attitude all the time. So telling your mom to behave is help her set boundaries on her behavior. It might not solve all of the problem, but it might help a little bit. And it is true - if she runs off the help, you may have to run her off (to the nursing home).

DianaB · 05-20-2011, 11:04 AM

I'm so glad that you're finally getting some help for your Mom. It is too much for one person to handle on her own. It's so hard to hear of how your Mom is losing so much strength. You're both in my prayers!!! Hugs!!!

Janet · 05-29-2011, 06:19 PM

Just an update....we love the nurse, Mom has really warmed up to her AND the Physical Therapist. She absolutely loves the Home Health Aide, but still not sure about the Occupational Therapist (he's a man and really nice). The first PT we had we both didn't care for but this one is a keeper.

I still have trouble getting Mom to do the exercises. She whines for me, but does great for the therapist. I'm glad they are here and helping and especially that they are so nice. I really like them all. The only complaint....I always know what day they are coming....but never what time of day. Other than that....it's so nice to have some help.

DianaB · 05-29-2011, 06:55 PM

I'm so glad that things are working out so well!!!

Janet · 05-30-2011, 06:33 AM

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Originally Posted by DianaB

I'm so glad that things are working out so well!!!

So far so good. The PT projects that she'll only be here two more weeks. If Mom accomplishes her goals, then the PT can't come anymore.

paula1961 · 05-30-2011, 08:40 AM

I'm so happy to hear that the new nurse is working out! I'm so glad you are getting some help. I pray for you and your Mom everyday.

DianaB · 05-30-2011, 08:47 AM

Your Mom really needs to work to get her strength back up and that means doing the exercises!!!! Glen's Mom wouldn't do them so she just sat in a chair all day long.....only getting up when she HAD to.......and had everything brought to her. That's no way to live!!!

05-19-2011, 11:52 AM	#1
gja1000 Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Central Texas Posts: 5,717	Good for you Janet. Unfortunately, as we age, we lose our social graces - that part of the brain just goes. The other day my mom told a man she was going to hit him over the head with her cane if he didn't leave her alone (he was only trying to talk to her). AND THEN SHE TOLD ME SHE SAID IT. A few years ago she would never, in a million years, have said that to anyone. The point is that your mom really doesn't want "strangers" helping her, and she may say so, or act as such. Most nursing personnel understand that, but you can also understand that they get tired of that kind of attitude all the time. So telling your mom to behave is help her set boundaries on her behavior. It might not solve all of the problem, but it might help a little bit. And it is true - if she runs off the help, you may have to run her off (to the nursing home). __________________ Gayle

05-29-2011, 06:19 PM	#3
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,625	Just an update....we love the nurse, Mom has really warmed up to her AND the Physical Therapist. She absolutely loves the Home Health Aide, but still not sure about the Occupational Therapist (he's a man and really nice). The first PT we had we both didn't care for but this one is a keeper. I still have trouble getting Mom to do the exercises. She whines for me, but does great for the therapist. I'm glad they are here and helping and especially that they are so nice. I really like them all. The only complaint....I always know what day they are coming....but never what time of day. Other than that....it's so nice to have some help. __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

05-20-2011, 11:04 AM	#2
DianaB Moderator Donating 4WT 13K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Kansas Posts: 16,069	I'm so glad that you're finally getting some help for your Mom. It is too much for one person to handle on her own. It's so hard to hear of how your Mom is losing so much strength. You're both in my prayers!!! Hugs!!!

05-29-2011, 06:55 PM	#4
DianaB Moderator Donating 4WT 13K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Kansas Posts: 16,069	I'm so glad that things are working out so well!!!

05-30-2011, 08:40 AM	#6
paula1961 Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Kentucky Posts: 3,383	I'm so happy to hear that the new nurse is working out! I'm so glad you are getting some help. I pray for you and your Mom everyday.

05-30-2011, 08:47 AM	#7
DianaB Moderator Donating 4WT 13K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Kansas Posts: 16,069	Your Mom really needs to work to get her strength back up and that means doing the exercises!!!! Glen's Mom wouldn't do them so she just sat in a chair all day long.....only getting up when she HAD to.......and had everything brought to her. That's no way to live!!!

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