I Think Mom Is Starting To Fade.......

[Tiramisu]

She must be so tired. I know youre tired and that you will hold on as long as you can. Get all the help you can and keep her comfortable.

My Mom's been gone three years this week.

[Janet]

I am so sorry this sort of anniversary is coming up for you Sandy. I know it has to be hard.

You're right....I am tired, but so is Mom. The thing I'm having trouble with now is that she is finding it hard to swallow food. She can chew, but it doesn't want to go down she says. I will speak with the kidney Dr and nurses and see what they say and then make an appt with her regular Dr. It's hard not knowing what to do or which Dr. to contact. If it wasn't for Gayle....I'd be more crazy than I am.

[gja1000]

It probably should be her regular doc to tell about the swallowing problem. She needs palliative care, commonly called "comfort care" right now. I bet a hospice nurse would know what to do. I hope you can contact them.

[Janet]

I will on Monday, for sure....Thank you so much Gayle.

[judy]

I am so sad for you and Mom, Janet. It sounds like she is suffering.

The hospice will be more responsive to you since you have inquired before.

[Blueyes]

Janet, if I had a do-over I wouldn't have put my mom through the "testing and doctoring" that went on after her stroke. In my humble opinion, when an elderly body begins to shut down it should be allowed to do so when a doctors intervention only prolongs the inevitable. Call Hospice again please. I know how hard it is Janet, but I also know how strong you are. God Bless you both. Love you!

[Janet]

I will be calling Hospice tomorrow. I have to make sure the Dr says it's for heart failure. If we say kidney failure, Mom would have to quit dialysis and she doesn't want to do that yet. She is sleeping alot. Tonight I made spaghetti and garlic bread. She ate a few bites and then promptly threw it up in the trash. I just don't understand why she can't eat without throwing it up. Tonight when I weighed her before going on dialysis...she dropped down to 126.2 lbs. Her clothes look huge on her now.

[JJJ]

Originally Posted by Blueyes

Janet, if I had a do-over I wouldn't have put my mom through the "testing and doctoring" that went on after her stroke. In my humble opinion, when an elderly body begins to shut down it should be allowed to do so when a doctors intervention only prolongs the inevitable. Call Hospice again please. I know how hard it is Janet, but I also know how strong you are. God Bless you both. Love you!

I agree, when my grandma was taken to the hospital I was the one that had to make decisions because no one could handle it. I was in denial also and wanted to do whatever it took to get her better. Of course her body was fragile and she was in peace. I think the best thing is to get them as comfortable as they can be.

My thoughts and heart goes to you Janet. You are a wonderful daughter.