I Think Mom Is Starting To Fade.......

Janet · 07-16-2011, 07:43 PM

I will on Monday, for sure....Thank you so much Gayle.

judy · 07-16-2011, 08:04 PM

I am so sad for you and Mom, Janet. It sounds like she is suffering.

The hospice will be more responsive to you since you have inquired before.

Blueyes · 07-17-2011, 06:33 PM

Janet, if I had a do-over I wouldn't have put my mom through the "testing and doctoring" that went on after her stroke. In my humble opinion, when an elderly body begins to shut down it should be allowed to do so when a doctors intervention only prolongs the inevitable. Call Hospice again please. I know how hard it is Janet, but I also know how strong you are. God Bless you both. Love you!

Janet · 07-17-2011, 07:44 PM

I will be calling Hospice tomorrow. I have to make sure the Dr says it's for heart failure. If we say kidney failure, Mom would have to quit dialysis and she doesn't want to do that yet. She is sleeping alot. Tonight I made spaghetti and garlic bread. She ate a few bites and then promptly threw it up in the trash. I just don't understand why she can't eat without throwing it up. Tonight when I weighed her before going on dialysis...she dropped down to 126.2 lbs. Her clothes look huge on her now.

gja1000 · 07-18-2011, 03:17 AM

I just don't understand why hospice requires someone in kidney failure to go off dialysis - I don't think that is right.

But yes, the doctor should say it is heart failure.

Janet · 07-18-2011, 04:10 AM

I don't think it's right either. Her BP is 90/57 this morning. Very light headed and passed out once. Her weight is now 125.6. She's eating breakfast right now...I hope she can keep it down.

Blueyes · 07-18-2011, 07:33 AM

It's because dialysis is considered a life saving measure, and hospice is for palliative (comfort measures only) care. It may seem harsh, but hospice is end of life care. I love you, Janet. My heart is with you.

Lindsey · 07-18-2011, 07:34 AM

I just want to say I'm very sorry Janet and I am praying for you both.

JJJ · 07-19-2011, 03:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Blueyes

Janet, if I had a do-over I wouldn't have put my mom through the "testing and doctoring" that went on after her stroke. In my humble opinion, when an elderly body begins to shut down it should be allowed to do so when a doctors intervention only prolongs the inevitable. Call Hospice again please. I know how hard it is Janet, but I also know how strong you are. God Bless you both. Love you!

I agree, when my grandma was taken to the hospital I was the one that had to make decisions because no one could handle it. I was in denial also and wanted to do whatever it took to get her better. Of course her body was fragile and she was in peace. I think the best thing is to get them as comfortable as they can be.

My thoughts and heart goes to you Janet. You are a wonderful daughter.

Janet · 07-19-2011, 07:19 PM

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Originally Posted by DianaB

Janet, I'm so sorry that you're dealing with all of this. I wish that I could work out something so I could come and help but we have so much going on here right now that things are just crazy. You're in my thoughts and prayers!!

You wouldn't have a very good time if you were here and when you are able to come...I want it to be a great time.

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Originally Posted by JJJ

I agree, when my grandma was taken to the hospital I was the one that had to make decisions because no one could handle it. I was in denial also and wanted to do whatever it took to get her better. Of course her body was fragile and she was in peace. I think the best thing is to get them as comfortable as they can be.

My thoughts and heart goes to you Janet. You are a wonderful daughter.

You know...even though Mom now can not stand without help (no balance) and has all these problems and now she is in bed alot....she still doesn't really seem 'fragile'. Even though she isn't able to do things like she did....she doesn't seem like she's going to pass anytime soon either. It's so hard to know what is best. Hospice will come out and tell us what they think. If they think it's too soon...they said they will always be able to come later.

I sure wouldn't wish this on anyone.

DianaB · 07-20-2011, 02:03 PM

What have you found out about your arm? Have you gotten any relief yet?

Janet · 07-20-2011, 02:12 PM

Nope....not yet.

07-16-2011, 07:43 PM	#1
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,625	I will on Monday, for sure....Thank you so much Gayle. __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

07-16-2011, 08:04 PM	#2
judy Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Denver, NY Posts: 8,097	I am so sad for you and Mom, Janet. It sounds like she is suffering. The hospice will be more responsive to you since you have inquired before. __________________ *Judy*

07-17-2011, 06:33 PM	#3
Blueyes Donating 4WT Talker Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 2,119	Janet, if I had a do-over I wouldn't have put my mom through the "testing and doctoring" that went on after her stroke. In my humble opinion, when an elderly body begins to shut down it should be allowed to do so when a doctors intervention only prolongs the inevitable. Call Hospice again please. I know how hard it is Janet, but I also know how strong you are. God Bless you both. Love you! __________________ Betsi

07-17-2011, 07:44 PM	#4
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,625	I will be calling Hospice tomorrow. I have to make sure the Dr says it's for heart failure. If we say kidney failure, Mom would have to quit dialysis and she doesn't want to do that yet. She is sleeping alot. Tonight I made spaghetti and garlic bread. She ate a few bites and then promptly threw it up in the trash. I just don't understand why she can't eat without throwing it up. Tonight when I weighed her before going on dialysis...she dropped down to 126.2 lbs. Her clothes look huge on her now. __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

07-18-2011, 03:17 AM	#5
gja1000 Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Central Texas Posts: 5,717	I just don't understand why hospice requires someone in kidney failure to go off dialysis - I don't think that is right. But yes, the doctor should say it is heart failure. __________________ Gayle

07-18-2011, 04:10 AM	#6
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,625	I don't think it's right either. Her BP is 90/57 this morning. Very light headed and passed out once. Her weight is now 125.6. She's eating breakfast right now...I hope she can keep it down. __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

07-18-2011, 07:33 AM	#7
Blueyes Donating 4WT Talker Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 2,119	It's because dialysis is considered a life saving measure, and hospice is for palliative (comfort measures only) care. It may seem harsh, but hospice is end of life care. I love you, Janet. My heart is with you. __________________ Betsi

07-18-2011, 07:34 AM	#8
Lindsey Donating 4WT Talker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Saskatchewan Posts: 3,764	I just want to say I'm very sorry Janet and I am praying for you both. __________________ Lindsey "I don't mind living in a man's world as long as I can be a woman in it..." -Marilyn Monroe

07-20-2011, 02:03 PM	#11
DianaB Moderator Donating 4WT 13K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Kansas Posts: 16,069	What have you found out about your arm? Have you gotten any relief yet?

07-20-2011, 02:12 PM	#12
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,625	Nope....not yet. __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

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