What's the right age?

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My kids had to pay rent weekly and my husband got our son up at 7 on Sat. morning to help him outside. He also cut grass (2 acres, riding lawn mower). He wasn't always happy but cheered up after about an hour. He has always thanked us for everything we did for him and never griped about the rent. He did move out when he was 19. Our daughter went into the Army at 18 and is 28 and in Iraq for the second time. She also tells us what awesome parents we are and were.
My husband's brother never grew up. He still lives with his parents and he is 56 and just had bypass. He has no life except when he comes to our house. His mother still tells him to set the table. My kids stand on their own. Scott is married and father of one. Liz is divorced and mother of 2.
My older daughter was a hell on wheels. At 16 she was given the 3 choices. She chose to live with her father in AZ. We lived in FL at the time. 3 months later she arrived back in town compliments of the state. Her father had thrown her out. I refused to take her back (drug dealers etc. invited to my house by her, many other things) and she is now 34, living with her significant other of 17 years, and has 2 children ages 13 boy and 8 girl. She is TOUGH on them. They behave well and love her very much. She calls me at least twice a week. I guess we did something right although I didn't think so at the time.