Can Things Get Worse??

[Blueyes]

I'm so sorry Diana! I'm glad you are sticking to your guns about him staying at your house. Some people have to learn the hard way that there are consequences for their actions.

[DianaB]

Things are so stressful here that I can't even write about how bad it is. Before I even got out of bed this morning I could hear Dae Lynn yelling at Glen. I know that all of this is so hard for her and I can sympathize with her. It is hard to know that your husband has no where to stay and even isn't welcome where you are at. She understands what we're saying but still it's hard.

Dae Lynn brought Damon out here again last night to see the kids which makes us feel guilty that he has no where to stay. Glen wasn't happy that he was here again but we had kids church and weren't here to be around him much and Dae Lynn was asleep when we got home. I know that she's paying for his motel and really doesn't have the money to do that and eventually it will come out of our pocket.

Besides the problems with Damon my dil, Tammy, is stirring up trouble. She thinks that Damon doesn't deserve the attention that Glen and I give him and it's not fair to her and Jason, our sil. It keeps coming back to Glen and I that we shouldn't have let Dae Lynn even marry Damon but Dae Lynn was over 18 when she did that.......we couldn't have stopped it but they don't seem to understand that. It's already done and we have to deal with things from here but they want to dwell in the "you should haves". I hate to say this but my dil causes some real problems and a lot of it stems from her not always telling the truth and gossiping. Damon's not the only one that we're fustrated with. I just feel like going outside and giving a blood curdling scream because I'm so fustrated with everything but we have some older neighbors and I'm afraid that they would call the sheriff to come out and see what was going on!!!! LOL

I AM heading to my Aunt Marva's this weekend. I need a break from the kids, the drama, from Damon, and from Tammy. I'll be leaving on Friday mornng and heading out. Amy has already said that she would watch Dean on Friday.

[judy]

It sounds like you have your hands full, Diana!

I love that you are taking off and going to your Aunt's!!! The best way not to play other people's games, is just not to be around!!!

I feel bad for Dae Lyn too. I hope she faces the truth very soon. If not, you may have to set very strong limits. With Tammy too! Pretend to have a splitting headache, and go lie down next time she starts up. Then tell her your blood pressure went too high, and that the doctor said you cannot discuss it.

[gja1000]

Oh Judy, you have the best advice.

[DianaB]

Originally Posted by judy

............ Pretend to have a splitting headache, and go lie down next time she starts up. Then tell her your blood pressure went too high, and that the doctor said you cannot discuss it.

I'll have to try that!!!! Thanks, Judy!!!

The reason that Damon needs a place to stay is because the paperwork hasn't caught up with him yet. The court hasn't received the paperwork about Damon but when they do they'll put out a warrant for his arrest and he'll be taken back to jail. They can't do anything with him until then. He could be out a few days or over a month. We don't know. It doesn't make sense to me.

[Janet]

Since he knows he'll be served a warrant, why doesn't he just go turn himself in? That way he'll have a place to stay. It would be a good way for Damon to prove he has the right intentions. I really think that Damon needs long term help and it's not going to be easy as we've all seen. Wish there were some easy answers.

[judy]

He's way too much trouble! I hope Dae Lyn gives him the boot! He may or may not straighten out, and they could reconnect then. For now though, this is not healthy for her.

[DianaB]

Damon was put in jail on Monday and things have settled down again. I feel so bad because I know that he's not able to get out on work release but it really is his own fault. I can't imagine sitting in jail day after day. They have cut back on expenses at the jail and they are hardly fed there anymore. The family is suppose to keep money on their account so they can buy food from the store at the jail. It's a rip off!!!! Damon lost so much weight when he was there the last time and he really doesn't have much to lose.

Dae Lynn took the kids AND Damon to Wichita to the zoo on Saturday and Sunday. Glen wasn't happy because it was money she didn't need to spend........and ultimately is our money. She did go as cheap as she could and didn't spend much but still it set Glen off and she knew it. When I called to come home on Sunday I knew that Glen was upset so my nice peaceful weekend ended before I left Marva's house.

I know that Dae Lynn is fustrated with Glen and his attitude about Damon. I also know that Damon's done things wrong but God's not finished with him yet and I'm not ready to throw in the towel. I'm fustrated about how Damon handled all of this Teen Challenge stuff but he is still a person......a person who doesn't think clearly sometimes. I truly hope he's not being decietful but he'll have to deal with that with God.

I feel like a middle man........I can see Dae Lynn's point of view and I can also see Glen's point of view. I hope the courts will allow Damon to go back to Teen Challenge because I will feel a lot better about that then just having him sit in jail.