My Baby Wants To Move Out

[DianaB]

How hard for Mama!!! Feyn got a great deal on a house before he and Tammy got married. I knew that he was moving out and came home one day and his room was completely cleaned out!!! I couldn't even walk past his room without crying. It was so hard and he just moved down the road from us. I think that it was just realizing that he was growning up and I wasn't ready for it yet!!!

Give him the speech about paying bills and responsibility but in reality you've already taught him very well. He's ready to be a young adult.....and yes, he'll make his share of mistakes......but his Mama will always be there for him!!

It was hard for my other kids to move out too but that first one was the hardest. I can't imagine how I would have felt if it was my only child. Hugs to you, Janet!!!

[JJJ]

Well, I can't wait for mine to get old and move out Lol

I would probably handle it differently. I would tell him to find another job to make sure his able to pay all his bills and not come to you to borrow money. But I'm sure your nicer than me.

[2tiredmom]

Janet, He will find out how hard it will be. My kids have. I still had Dustin on my insurance till this year. He will be 25 in April. So he should still be able to be on your health insurance unless you don't want him on it. Be thankful he is just moving down the road a ways. I know he is your one and only but he is 21. They could be like some other kids and come back and stay. LOL. Iknow it's hard. I can't believe my baby boy is getting married. Just have the money talk with him and show him how to budget. Then maybe he will see how much money he will have left if any. Good Luck.

[Janet]

That's just it....I know already it will be very hard on him financially. We are planning to sit down together and put it all on paper. There are incidentals I know he's not thinking of. I'm afraid he's going to be disappointed, but I want him to be able to thrive on his own....not feel like a failure.

[JJJ]

Your such a nice mommy Janet.

He can never fail, it's just another way of learning mistakes.

[Janet]

If he had to struggle much, he would see it as failing.....he's just so sensitive. That's why I want him to be sure he can afford it. The friend he wants to move in with works at the Frito Lay plant here in Frankfort and makes darn good money. He makes it look easy and fun to Ricky, when in reality....Ricky won't be able to afford the things like Chris can. We'll see I guess.

[gja1000]

I understand the sensitive issue, but he just may have to learn the hard way. He's a good kid, he will be OK, whatever happens.