Prayers for my girls please

[Janet]

Thinking of you and the girls. Hoping all got through the services okay...such a sad time. I miss you.

[JJJ]

I am terribly sorry for the lost of your daughters father. What a tragedy.

Suicide is just so controversial. I am sure he didn't want his love ones suffering for him. The loss of someone is always hard and your daughters will come to peace sooner or later. I will send them all the positive thoughts and energy I can to all those involve in this tragedy.

Take care of yourself as well. XOXO

R I P

[lynne b]

Thank you again for all the thoughts and prayers. Yesterday was the funeral, so many emotions, seeing people that we knew when we were in school and married, that his current wife didn't know and of course the same for her, people that i didn't know. The girls did pretty good, although my oldest wouldn't even look at him or get close enough, she wanted to sit in the back of the room.

Only 1 brother and 1 nephew came, his own mother didn't come, she hadn't talked to him for a couple of years now, she will regret it some day.

I'm sad at the whole out come of this, but i am also mad at him for hurting the girls the way he did....i know he was sick and not thinking straight, but come on, he had no ins. no money and now my girls are stuck paying for their fathers funeral, me and my husband are paying for the flowers. Yes his wife works and i have told the girls that they really need to talk to her about this after some time has passed, the plots had to be paid up front so thats done and already the kids are struggling, we helped them through the funeral with $ but i can't expect my husband to pay for my ex's funeral.....i'm so mad that he has put the girls in this position.

Thanks again for the thoughts and prayers and letting me vent


oh one more thing, i had a lock box that i kept jewlery in, mine, moms and g-parents, birth cert, and some cash, went to get some of the cash for the gilrs yesterday morning and the box is gone, we have turned the house upside down looking for it and it's not here. I was just in it maybe a week ago, i put my mom's mother's ring in it, i sat on the floor in the closet sorting pic's for the girls Sun. and didn't even notice weather it was there or not. Nothing else is missing except the box.....no one even knew where we kept it or that we had one, no one around here knew about the death and that we would be gone except for regular work hrs, which we did not go to work those days. It's driving me crazy just wondering..did i do something with it or was someone really in my house, we always lock it up. I just hate loosing the jewlery for my girls, some of moms rings were to go to them. Yes we called the sheriff, but not much to go on.

[gja1000]

Lynne, it is not right that your girls were in that position of having to pay for the funeral. That is totally unfair. That happened to my daughter too, her dad didn't actually commit suicide but he did kill himself due to drinking and drugging and dying from liver failure.

I can't imagine what happened to the box, that is spooky. It would be like me to put it somewhere and not remember where, but I wouldn't forget in only a week. Now if it were a few months, I could totally forget where I put it. I think it's disappearance is very weird.

I'm glad the funeral and everything is over. Big Hugs to you and your daughters.

[judy]

Lynne,
I am so sorry for your girls! What a burden of emotions his suicide left them with! The fact that he was mentally ill may help them some, once they really let that sink in. They could never have "fixed" that.

Do you have any suspicions as to where the box may have gone? Rather, as to who may have taken it? I'm so sorry you lost those things that were important to you.

My first love killed himself years ago. I have been told it was due to drugs. We weren't together anymore, but I do have a letter from him not long before he died. He was the love of my life, and I began to realize that I needed to make peace with his suicide now. It is a very confusing thing to make peace with, I'll tell you that. My heart goes out to your girls.

[Janet]

Wow! I feel bad that your girls are the ones that have to take care of the expenses on top of all the emotions and loss that they are feeling.

The box that is missing, that's scary. I would go crazy wondering what happened to it. I have a small safe and now I'm wondering if I should find a better place for it. I mean it's heavy, but can be carried. I hope it shows up soon.

[DianaB]

Your girls shouldn't be paying for the whole funeral!! Is the wife helping out? She's the one that has all of his "stuff" and the responsibility should be hers......not the girls!! Was she there to help decide funeral arrangements? That sounds stinky to me!!

As for the locked box.....I'd say that you will find it. It's probably still there but you've misplaced it with everything that's been going on. I can't imagine that someone would come in and only that that one item......you'd notice other things missing.