Gary is gone

[DIANE W]

Oh Gayle...... I am so so very sorry for your sudden loss, i am truely shocked right now, i cant believe what i have just read.

Words cant describe how you must be feeling right now, i know you said you knew it was going to happen eventually, and it must be such a lovely comfort to you that you were such a close couple, not many people have that in a relationship, so that is lovely.

I just want you to know i am thinking and praying for you and your family, and your right..... your lovely Gary is not suffering anymore and he is at peace.

Sending you a big big hug, take each day at a time and make sure you look after yourself now.

[gja1000]

Thank you everyone. Your words and your support mean the world to me. I am so lucky to have had the love of my life with me for 30 years. I wanted it to last forever but it was not to be. I want you to know that I'm OK, its really hard, but I am with my kids and we are helping each other through these hard times.

[Janet]

It's comforting to know that you are with family. We know you're okay and you'll be okay, but right now, we are heartbroken for you. You mean so much to all of us that when one of us is hurting, we all feel it. Know we are with you in spirit and we're here anytime you need us. Love you

[gja1000]

I know Janet, and it means so much to me. It's so interesting how my 4WT family is so very important. Just a few years ago I would never have dreamed that I could become so attached to friends I had never met in person. It is so comforting.

[gja1000]

I should tell you all that Gary was very adamant that he did not want a funeral and did not want a viewing of his body. He wanted to be cremated and have some of his ashes sprinkled in his favorite lake in Oklahoma. He wanted his friends and family to gather at the lake, eat, play cards, tell stories about him, be together, and remember him with more joy and less sadness. So, this is what we will do in the next few weeks, I'm not sure when. I told his sisters (4) to pick a weekend to get together, it doesn't matter when. I think they are having trouble with the non traditional aspects of his wishes, but I must do as he asked me. I am so at peace with his wishes though, because traditional viewings and funerals are very hard. Because there is not a funeral for people to send flowers, we have asked that people donate to a Yorkie rescue, or other charity. Gary would be so happy with these arrangements.

[lynne b]

Gayle, that sounds like a beautiful way to remember Gary, i am glad that you are sticking to what Gary's wish's were. Funerals can be very depressing and drawn out, instead of remembering the good life that you shared together.
I am thinking of you and my prayers are with you.

[DIANE W]

Gayle... I think that is such a wonderful idea of Gary's, funerals are such a hard time for loved ones to get through, at a time when they are already suffering so much. At least this way Gary has spared everyone that, and even though it is not exactly the traditional way to do things ............. it is what Gary wanted and that is ALL that matters now.

I think it will be a lovely way to remember him, not that you will need to be reminded Gayle, he will be with you every day anyway, in your heart.

Lots of love to you and take care.

[JJJ]

Gayle, Gary is my kind of man. I hate traditional funerals and I can totally understand his point of view. I think it's wonderful your doing Gary's wishes, good for you.

Celebrating Gary will be beautiful