What's Going On........

[Janet]

That's really too bad that Althea had to be that way towards your kids. I would think that Brenda could override that decision a bit and at least let the kids have something. Would she consider letting you help her go through things and take the load of work off her? Maybe she would let you keep some things for helping her out.

It does sound that Damon's dad may be going through it faster than one thinks. Not sure why he didn't even want to look at the house and be a jerk about it. Maybe he really doesn't want to help them out???

Hopefully they'll find something nice real soon. I know they are wanting their family together and I know you're wanting your house and privacy back.

[DianaB]

Damon comes from a very disfunctional family and his Dad just proved it to Dae Lynn and the woman who was selling the house. Dae Lynn was gone last weekend, if you remember, on vacation with Damon's family and she had plenty to say about the Dad!!!

I don't think that Brenda would let me help with cleaning things out. In their family being "family" means a lot. Althea was not a kind person......she was very selfish and she hurt me a lot but I can move on from it. The "stuff" was hers to do with as she chose but my family saw her for what she was and she wasn't very well liked. Althea ALWAYS had favorites and all of us could tell you who they were......her daughter's children.

I can understand getting along better with your own daughters than you do your daughter-in-laws but my grandchildren are just as much a part of her as her own daughter's children were. I hurt more for my kids than myself.....but you know what? Actually my kids don't care about her stuff!!! She cut her nose off to spite her face!!!

I know that when the girls start actually cleaning things out I will be hurt because there is just so much of it and who knows, they might ask if there's anything I would like out of what's left......but I'm not holding my breathe. Actually, I don't know if I would want Althea's things where I would look at them every day.

[Janet]

Oh Diana.....I'm so sorry this had to happen. You must be just heartsick over it all. Do you think Jason's story about the mom and son at the gas station was true? I'm really at a loss, I have no idea what to say. My family is so dysfuntional it's pathetic so I have no advice to offer. Wish this didn't happen, but since it did it's probably time for a family talk. If everyone has something to say, then maybe it's time to get it said and not on Facebook.

[DianaB]

Sorry Everyone but I deleted the post. I've been so hurt by everyone's hard feelings towards Damon and Dae Lynn and today's been a really, really bad day. I decided that maybe it was best to not air our dirty laundry after all.

Jason, Amy's husband, and I ended up at odds with each other today over a post he made on FB and we've been back and forth on the e-mail there.......and it has boiled down basically that they are jealous of the help we've given Dae Lynn and Damon. It even ended up where Jason said "Do you know how long it been since I could afford to go on vacation.." All because Dae Lynn and Damon went to Branson last weekend with his Dad paying for ALL of it......and they went to KC and went to the Schlitterbahn.......spent about $200 altogether. Jealousy!!!!

I'm so tired of all of this.......tired of people's attitudes......tired of my husband's attitude.......just sick and tired.

Janet, as far as what Jason posted.....it is probably true but was posted as a dig to Dae Lynn anyway......with that being his excuse. If you notice.....Tammy also posted a couple of things about food stamps today as well. Coincidence??? I don't think so.

[Janet]

I know this has to be so hard for you. They just don't realize that you would do the same for them if they needed it. I'm always here if you need me.

[gja1000]

Oh Diana, I'm so sorry all this is happening. I didn't realize Jason was Amy's husband. They are jealous. Jealousy is such a hurtful emotion. I wish it didn't exist. I agree with Janet, I wish he would realize that you all would do the same for them if they needed it.

I'm so sorry, this has caused a rift in your family. We all know it happens to all of us from time to time, but I just wish it didn't have to happen. I want everyone to get along and be happy to just "have" each other. It will never happen, but that's my wish.

[DianaB]

Thanks for your support, Janet and Gayle.

Yes, it is jealousy. Jason's upset because he can't afford a vacation. Dae Lynn and Damon budget for a vacation.......she saves her money for them to go places. Also the trip to Branson was paid for by Damon's Dad. How do you turn that down?......just because your sister and BIL can't afford it????

Then Amy made the comment that she was jealous that Damon bought Dae Lynn an iPad???!!!!! Amy and Jason have had help in the past from his aunt and uncle. They have given them computers and bought Jason a pickup truck. Yes, Amy and Jason's money is tight.......I don't understand why because they both have fairly good jobs. I do know in the past they haven't made good decisions in things that they've bought but as a parent you have to stand by and let them do that hoping that they learn their lesson. The 4-wheeler that we bought for them was because they were wanting one but we gave them the choice as to whether they wanted to pay bills or buy a 4-wheeler so that wasn't a good decision on their part. Should we bail them out of that? No, I don't think so......that was their decision......a poor one.

Damon and Dae Lynn have looked at a house and I think are going to buy it but we're afraid of what everyone's reaction is going to be. The house is more expensive than the other one they were looking at but it has a rental trailer house with it that will make most of their payment. Also the house is listed way below appraisal value. The woman is a friend of ours and she just lost her husband and it's just too much for her to take care of. We're just not telling anyone......including Glen......about what's going on. They'll just have to deal with their jealousy and problems. Dae Lynn and Damon have to do what's best for them.

I was in tears this morning because of a talk that Glen and Dae Lynn had last night. Dae Lynn was actually very encouraging to me. I'm going to miss her when she moves out......at least she won't be far away!!!