Changing The Will

[gja1000]

You will get out of the hole Janet, you will. It just doesn't seem like it right now. You need to keep busy so that you don't dwell on it. I agree, it's time Ricky gets out on his own. His comings and goings are creating angst for you. I don't think his contributing to expenses is the answer, although that would help. You need to NOT know when he is with her and things like giving him money to get the part, then knowing that instead of getting the part and fixing the truck, he spent time with her. That creates angst. He just needs to get his own place, whatever/wherever that may be. Let me tell you I lived in some pretty trashy places in my time and I survived. I think he just needs to find a place to rent and get moved out. I know renting seems like throwing away his money, but most of us did it at the beginning. I really think that's what he needs to do. Then, you won't know when he is with her or not, and the irritation to your life will be lessened. It really is time he was out on his own, actually it's way past time.