I Am So Sad

RLC12345678 · 12-06-2006, 07:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Janet

You both are probably right, but for the last 6 or 7 years, we've talked darn never everyday, sometimes more. I guess we are all different, but I could never get tired of her, or not find time for her.

I just feel so lost, because this came about so suddenly. I could maybe understand if it was a gradual thing, but it was like one day she is no longer available. She only lives about 4 miles from me, but I could never just drop in. She has never appreciated anyone, even family doing that. I guess I'll just have to come to terms that she doesn't need me near as much as I need her..but it makes my heart ache so much!!

Just send her a nice card! She may be going through a tough time personally right now. If she is, she would probably really appreciate a nice card from her best friend to brighten her day.

Tink · 12-06-2006, 10:55 AM

(((Janet))) I wish I had some good idea for you, but I find myself in a very similar spot. Julie and I had been very close friends from jr high on up. We were in each others weddings, babysat each others kids, etc. We moved out of the area for 3 yrs and she grew more and more distant during that time. Now that we're back, she hardly talks to me. I did manage to get her to go out with me once in the past 2 yrs, but she never calls, and if I do, shes not available either.

I have no clue why! So While I can't offer any words of wisdom, I can say I feel your pain.

Janet · 12-06-2006, 11:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Tink

(((Janet))) I wish I had some good idea for you, but I find myself in a very similar spot. Julie and I had been very close friends from jr high on up. We were in each others weddings, babysat each others kids, etc. We moved out of the area for 3 yrs and she grew more and more distant during that time. Now that we're back, she hardly talks to me. I did manage to get her to go out with me once in the past 2 yrs, but she never calls, and if I do, shes not available either.

I have no clue why! So While I can't offer any words of wisdom, I can say I feel your pain.

I am sorry you are going through something very similiar, it sounds. I can't help to think, she is more important to me than I am to her. I have no clue either. I do know that it just hurts an awful lot!

Mandy · 12-06-2006, 01:02 PM

Janet, why don't you send her a nice bunch of flowers for Christmas with a card, just to let her know you thinking of her.
Maybe she's just going through a "quiet period" it happens with friends, she will find her way back to you

khardy57 · 12-06-2006, 01:41 PM

Janet, I have a friend like that. We may not see each other for a long time because she has serious health problems, but we've been friends forever. We both know that no matter the time frame, we always pick up where we left off.

I agree with Diana, I think you should send her a "Thinking of You" card. Just to let her know that you're still on the map and that you miss her. I think it would be a very nice gesture and maybe an ice breaker.

I haven't seen my friend in a while now, but it's because I don't leave home once I get in each evening. When I go somewhere, it usually involves family. Nothing against my friend, but I find myself drawn more to my family now.

She may be going thru something similar.

Kim

red98vett · 12-06-2006, 01:53 PM

oh wow. I haven't had that kind of experience but I would send her a nice long letter and the card idea sounded good too or the flowers...and see what happens. Sometimes we can say alot more in a letter than we can to someones face and she'll at least READ the letter since she isn't coming to the phone. How sad for you - she sounds like she's missing out on a great friendship and that is really HER loss.....ALL THE BEST TO YOU and I hope she comes out of her shell and talks to you - that' what friends DO.

Janet · 12-06-2006, 04:21 PM

I am going to write a letter. I'm not going to hurry and write it, but take a few days to complete it. That way I can be sure to get all my feelings out. I always get her a Christmas present, I mean after all, she's my bestest friend in the whole world. I do like the letter idea though. Thanks ladies. Hopefully she'll be my Christmas present.

12-06-2006, 10:55 AM	#2
Tink Donating 4WT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Rural Wisconsin Posts: 3,707	(((Janet))) I wish I had some good idea for you, but I find myself in a very similar spot. Julie and I had been very close friends from jr high on up. We were in each others weddings, babysat each others kids, etc. We moved out of the area for 3 yrs and she grew more and more distant during that time. Now that we're back, she hardly talks to me. I did manage to get her to go out with me once in the past 2 yrs, but she never calls, and if I do, shes not available either. I have no clue why! So While I can't offer any words of wisdom, I can say I feel your pain. __________________ 'A simple way to take measure of a country is to look at how many want in.. And how many want out.' England 's Prime Minister Tony Blair'

12-06-2006, 01:02 PM	#4
Mandy Donating 4WT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Who cares! Posts: 4,587	Janet, why don't you send her a nice bunch of flowers for Christmas with a card, just to let her know you thinking of her. Maybe she's just going through a "quiet period" it happens with friends, she will find her way back to you __________________ Many people will walk in and out your life, but only true friends leave footprints!

12-06-2006, 04:21 PM	#7
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,625	I am going to write a letter. I'm not going to hurry and write it, but take a few days to complete it. That way I can be sure to get all my feelings out. I always get her a Christmas present, I mean after all, she's my bestest friend in the whole world. I do like the letter idea though. Thanks ladies. Hopefully she'll be my Christmas present. __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

12-06-2006, 01:41 PM	#5
khardy57 Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 278	Janet, I have a friend like that. We may not see each other for a long time because she has serious health problems, but we've been friends forever. We both know that no matter the time frame, we always pick up where we left off. I agree with Diana, I think you should send her a "Thinking of You" card. Just to let her know that you're still on the map and that you miss her. I think it would be a very nice gesture and maybe an ice breaker. I haven't seen my friend in a while now, but it's because I don't leave home once I get in each evening. When I go somewhere, it usually involves family. Nothing against my friend, but I find myself drawn more to my family now. She may be going thru something similar. Kim

12-06-2006, 01:53 PM	#6
red98vett Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 103	oh wow. I haven't had that kind of experience but I would send her a nice long letter and the card idea sounded good too or the flowers...and see what happens. Sometimes we can say alot more in a letter than we can to someones face and she'll at least READ the letter since she isn't coming to the phone. How sad for you - she sounds like she's missing out on a great friendship and that is really HER loss.....ALL THE BEST TO YOU and I hope she comes out of her shell and talks to you - that' what friends DO.

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