Being the oldest

Miss_Sara · 01-09-2007, 01:46 PM

Ya this year has been quite the eye opener

my 18th birthday
a bit of a deal

most of my family didn't get me gifts

Christmas
most of my family didn't get me gifts

I'm not a selfish girl. but I like to be shown some appreciation
especially since it's hard. I'm the oldest and the only for a while

and I can't stand seeing my cousins that are 4 years younger then me and all related (there's a group of 4 that are all siblings) get so much crap when they actually don't think of us as their actual family
which is crap
they just don't remember when they were very young and everything we did for them

but yet everyone goes out of their ways for them
because they had a "hard childhood"
they were very little then and don't remember anything and have made out with an awesome life and have more than everything a kid could ask for
but everyone forgets that I'm STUCK in the bad childhood. I still live with the psycho mom.

ok I'm not asking for attention
as I hate attention
I'm just asking for a "happy birthday" phone call
or maybe some cake and ice cream with my family that I always put first?

cindy0721 · 01-09-2007, 01:49 PM

I'm sorry.... Happy Be- Lated Birthday...son't worry it gets better believe it or not as you get older..

Janet · 01-09-2007, 04:13 PM

Sorry you're having a hard time. Wish they could see you as you are and show their appreciation. It does get better with time...so don't dwell on it.

Gina · 01-09-2007, 06:12 PM

Happy belated birthday! Hang in there sweetie...

Marilyn · 01-09-2007, 06:33 PM

So sorry that you do not have a more caring family. There are lots of moms on here. We could throw you an on-line belated party. We all care!!!!!

Ponyup · 01-10-2007, 06:16 AM

Happy be-lated birthday. My birthday is today. I totally understand what you mean. You deserve some sort of acknowledgement, plus 18 is a big one, you are officially an adult. It also has to be so hard to watch everyone dout on the younger ones like you don't exist. I will admit it's more fun to buy toys for youngsters, but there is no reason you should get left out. I'm sorry that happened. Again happy B-day.

Janet · 01-10-2007, 08:42 AM

Hope you have GREAT day!!!!

highlans · 01-10-2007, 11:02 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Marilyn

So sorry that you do not have a more caring family. There are lots of moms on here. We could throw you an on-line belated party. We all care!!!!!

From England a big hug and Happy Birthday Sara

xxxxxxx

rivermom · 01-10-2007, 02:14 PM

I dont care how old one get's, I honestly feel that deep down inside each one of us wants to feel special and loved on their own Birthday. It's never a selfish feeling really i dont' think. I mean really? What's wrong with wanting to feel special?

I am sorry you went through this. I hope there have been days since your Birthday that you've had a moment to feel special and loved.

Happy Belated Birthday!!

Tink · 01-10-2007, 05:07 PM

Happy belated Birthday Sara!
I'm 52 and I STILL like to be treated special on my birthday... so I don't think you're at all out of line.
HUGS

Miss_Sara · 01-11-2007, 01:05 PM

aww you guys are so sweet
I wasn't asking for a ton of sympathy
just voicing the fact that this was ridiculous

and I LOVE watching the little ones open gifts
as some might have realized from past posts I LOOVE kids very much

thanks everyone
and you're all very special too!

Taurus Babe · 01-11-2007, 07:51 PM

Happy belated birthday!!!

Lissa · 01-11-2007, 10:01 PM

Birthdays are such a big deal!! That's your day to shine, your day to be pampered and be told nice things, when people forget or don't make a big deal that's terrible on their part, so

Happy Belated Birthday!!

Brooke · 01-12-2007, 07:39 PM

Here's a party for you and we are all here to join in!!!!

red98vett · 01-14-2007, 06:13 AM

I just saw this and HAPPY LATE BIRTHDAY WISHES TO YOU sweetie - that does sound hurtful. You should talk to your family and tell them how you feel

01-09-2007, 01:46 PM	#1
Miss_Sara Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 120	Being the oldest Ya this year has been quite the eye opener my 18th birthday a bit of a deal most of my family didn't get me gifts Christmas most of my family didn't get me gifts I'm not a selfish girl. but I like to be shown some appreciation especially since it's hard. I'm the oldest and the only for a while and I can't stand seeing my cousins that are 4 years younger then me and all related (there's a group of 4 that are all siblings) get so much crap when they actually don't think of us as their actual family which is crap they just don't remember when they were very young and everything we did for them but yet everyone goes out of their ways for them because they had a "hard childhood" they were very little then and don't remember anything and have made out with an awesome life and have more than everything a kid could ask for but everyone forgets that I'm STUCK in the bad childhood. I still live with the psycho mom. ok I'm not asking for attention as I hate attention I'm just asking for a "happy birthday" phone call or maybe some cake and ice cream with my family that I always put first? __________________ God has filled my arms

01-09-2007, 01:49 PM	#2
cindy0721 Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Lone Star State Posts: 389	I'm sorry.... Happy Be- Lated Birthday...son't worry it gets better believe it or not as you get older.. __________________ Cindy " My mechanic told me, "I couldn't repair your brakes, so I made your horn louder."

01-09-2007, 04:13 PM	#3
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,625	Sorry you're having a hard time. Wish they could see you as you are and show their appreciation. It does get better with time...so don't dwell on it. __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

01-09-2007, 06:33 PM	#5
Marilyn Donating 4WT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: South Texas Posts: 4,907	So sorry that you do not have a more caring family. There are lots of moms on here. We could throw you an on-line belated party. We all care!!!!! __________________ Marilyn If anyone would like a free Bible Study CD or book entitled "Searching for Truth", PM me with your mailing address and I'll send you one. "And you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free." John 8:32

01-10-2007, 08:42 AM	#7
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,625	Hope you have GREAT day!!!! __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

01-09-2007, 06:12 PM	#4
Gina Donating 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 6,025	Happy belated birthday! Hang in there sweetie...

01-10-2007, 06:16 AM	#6
Ponyup Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 659	Happy be-lated birthday. My birthday is today. I totally understand what you mean. You deserve some sort of acknowledgement, plus 18 is a big one, you are officially an adult. It also has to be so hard to watch everyone dout on the younger ones like you don't exist. I will admit it's more fun to buy toys for youngsters, but there is no reason you should get left out. I'm sorry that happened. Again happy B-day.

01-10-2007, 02:14 PM	#9
rivermom Donating 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Tontitown, Arkansas Posts: 2,475	I dont care how old one get's, I honestly feel that deep down inside each one of us wants to feel special and loved on their own Birthday. It's never a selfish feeling really i dont' think. I mean really? What's wrong with wanting to feel special? I am sorry you went through this. I hope there have been days since your Birthday that you've had a moment to feel special and loved. Happy Belated Birthday!! __________________ ~_/> , /\/\ ,,, Sheryl When I grow up I want to be a horse whisperer!

01-10-2007, 05:07 PM	#10
Tink Donating 4WT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Rural Wisconsin Posts: 3,707	Happy belated Birthday Sara! I'm 52 and I STILL like to be treated special on my birthday... so I don't think you're at all out of line. HUGS __________________ 'A simple way to take measure of a country is to look at how many want in.. And how many want out.' England 's Prime Minister Tony Blair'

01-11-2007, 01:05 PM	#11
Miss_Sara Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 120	aww you guys are so sweet I wasn't asking for a ton of sympathy just voicing the fact that this was ridiculous and I LOVE watching the little ones open gifts as some might have realized from past posts I LOOVE kids very much thanks everyone and you're all very special too! __________________ God has filled my arms

01-11-2007, 07:51 PM	#12
Taurus Babe Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 668	Happy belated birthday!!! __________________ Taurus Babe aka Thorsmomma

01-11-2007, 10:01 PM	#13
Lissa Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: South and Central Texas Posts: 337	Birthdays are such a big deal!! That's your day to shine, your day to be pampered and be told nice things, when people forget or don't make a big deal that's terrible on their part, so Happy Belated Birthday!! __________________ Marilyn's Disappearing Daughter!! Cake or Death, Melissa "Therefore do not throw away your confidence, which has a great reward. For you have need of endurance, so that when you have done the will of God you may receive what is promised." Heb 10:35-36

01-12-2007, 07:39 PM	#14
Brooke Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 207	Happy Birthday darlin! Here's a party for you and we are all here to join in!!!! __________________ Just remember...I can't spell!!! Brooke

01-14-2007, 06:13 AM	#15
red98vett Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 103	I just saw this and HAPPY LATE BIRTHDAY WISHES TO YOU sweetie - that does sound hurtful. You should talk to your family and tell them how you feel

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