feeling low today

i lost my dad in october last year i did post the circumstances of his passing on the yt site where everybody was so kind, well as some of you might remember my beloved dad died suddenly of a heart attack in his bedroom, we had no warning , and my poor dear mum found him dead on the floor, i live only a few yards from there house so i was soon there and saw my dad dead on the floor and my hysterical mother laying over him screaming, as i am sure you can imagine i still have flash backs of that night and my heart screams with pain, but over the past week i am virtually not sleeping, i feel so stressed about everything , most days by body aches with the stress i feel even everyday problems to me are magnified i feel likei cannot cope with anything, please do not get me wrong i am not suicidal i love my family way to much to do anything silly i guess i just needed to tell somebody i cannot burden my mother with my feelings her pain is bad enough anyway thanks for listening ladies.

[Janet]

Oh you poor thing! Tears fell as I read your post, I know what those feelings are like. I've said it before, many, many times. Search out some counceling to help you deal with all you're going through. I don't know what you have in England, but here in the states, there are free places to go if one can not afford it. Speak with your regular Dr. first, rule out any physical problems. Tell him what you're feeling and ask him to refer you to some one. Please don't wait.......

You'll find a lot of caring compassionate people here, please know I care. Let us know how you're doing and if you're able to get some counceling.

[judy]

Dear Linnylou:

You poor thing. Of course you're upset. You do need to speak to your doctor just to
let him or her know how stressed out you are. Have you thought about someone to talk to - a priest or a therapist, or even a bereavement group.

When I lost my Dad, it was really rough and he lived in another state, so I can't imagine what you're going through.

Judy

[RLC12345678]

Hugs and prayers go out to you. My sincere condolences for the loss of your father. Time will heal your pain. I agree that reaching out to someone to talk to will help alot....a counselor, a grief support group, a priest, your doctor. Just hang in there and try to relax. We're all here for you!

[Gina]

[QUOTE=RLC12345678]Hugs and prayers go out to you. My sincere condolences for the loss of your father. Time will heal your pain. I agree that reaching out to someone to talk to will help alot....a counselor, a grief support group, a priest, your doctor. Just hang in there and try to relax. We're all here for you! [/QUOTE\\\\


I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your father and what you experieced, like Rebecca has posted along with the other ladies are good suggestions, Please speak to your dr. or if you have a spirital advisor, go to him. I will keep you in my prayers , this is a sad time in your life , remember you will get through it, just get the help needed to get you through this. Do you have a close friend? it is not good to keep this inside of you.. Good luck

[Marilyn]

Good advice here. Just know that we are here and care.

[Tink]

I'm so sorry you've had such a painful loss.
I agree with the other ladies that you need to seek out a therap[ist. It doesn't mean you're weak or sick, just that you need some help working your way through what had to be a very traumatic ordeal. Your Mom might benefit from it too if she sees it's helped you. Grief is so hard... please use whatever tools you can find to help you through.

HUGS

[DianaB]

What you are feeling is grief. There are many stages of grief and we tend to think that we can "just get over it" when we lose someone. I suggest that you either find a web-site that you can talk to others, find a grief counselor, or find a book about grief to help you through. Find a friend who is willing to listen to all that you have to say about your father and what you've been through and are going through. Don't try to hold in your sorrow, let it out. Enjoy the memories that you have of your Dad. He must have been very special to you.

I went through a miscarriage years ago and I felt that I was going crazy afterward. I found a little booklet that talked about the different stages of grief and I realized that I had several of the signs. I was able to buy a book that helped me a lot.

Please keep me posted on how things are going and if you need someone to talk to, I'm here.

[Janet]

Hope things are a little better for you today....Please let us know how you're doing.