Wanted or Just Needed ?

[rivermom]

Originally Posted by Emmsmom

I was just curious as to how many of you have been just wanted or needed in a relationship. Before getting married I actually felt wanted. I don't really feel that way so much anymore. Now I feel like I am just needed now more than anything. Myabe it is just a slump I am going through who knows. Midlife thingy or something. I just get tired of always being a taxi, a cook, a maid and so on. I don't know that I even feel like a wife anymore. I am jsut kinda here. My husband has said before that I need some kind of a hobby. Honestly, it would be nice but who has the time. I would love to feel wanted again. I was just wondering I how many of you have felt like this at some point in time.

I truly think that what you are going through is very normal and many women have experienced the same feelings you are. I know w/ out a doubt I went through this many years ago. It truly is a struggle and I feel for you.

Try to find the positive in all that you are providing for your family. The Mom-taxi, cooking, cleaning, etc are your gifts that you are giving of yourself. Those gifts are priceless and remember when you give, you will receive ten-fold back.

Try not to feel as if "you are just kinda here". You are an important person and you need to give yourself credit for all you do.

The feelings you have should pass and open up your heart w/ positiveness and realize that better things will happen. I think if you allow yourself to stay "trapped in your negative thoughts" it only opens the door for more drama and negativity.

Keep it positive, make time for YOU and what you'd like to enjoy, and smile each time you give your gift of yourself to your family. Even if it's not shown I bet honestly they truly appreciate it.

Hang in there, and remember...Try to remain positive and allow the good things and feelings to come back into you.