Strip Clubs

[Taurus Babe]

Oh AND, is it worth getting into an argument about it? Or is it better to just leave the subject alone?

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by Taurus Babe

Oh AND, is it worth getting into an argument about it? Or is it better to just leave the subject alone?

I think he should definitely know how you feel. It's important to be open and honest. You don't want to be married some day and him still think it's okay to go to strip clubs. You can tell him how you feel without causing an argument, most likely. Good luck!

[Mandy]

I have no problem with stripclubs, and young unattached guys going there, i mean.... let them live, and enjoy those pityful woman while they single, but for a guy that's attached to go there, to me is a big no no! What do they want there? Sure it might be a guy thing, as porn movies is a guy thing, but i have to wonder how it would make men feel, if we had to drool all over other men stripping, and doing their thing? Would it make them feel musculine? I don't think so! At least, i don't think the average man would appreciate he's wife/gf, watching or going to clubs like that! So for married men, and attached guys, those clubs should be banned for sure!

[rivermom]

I've never really given it much thought. My husband doesn't go to them and well neither do I.

[Ponyup]

I don't think my husband really likes going. sometimes we'll all go together with some friends for something to do, but that's it. I would only have a problem with him going if he didn't tell me he was going.

[Tink]

I have a real issue with being lied to, regardless of the topic.
If you don't think you're doing anything wrong, why hide it? And if you think it's wrong, why do it?

I have been to strip clubs a couple of times and just don't see the appeal. I do see how it hurts some relationships, and for that reason alone, I don't approve. I feel the same about singles bars, drug use and heavy drinking. If something else is becoming more important than your marriage or family, you need to reassess your priorities.

**getting off my soap box now**

[RLC12345678]

Originally Posted by Tink

I have a real issue with being lied to, regardless of the topic.
If you don't think you're doing anything wrong, why hide it? And if you think it's wrong, why do it?

I have been to strip clubs a couple of times and just don't see the appeal. I do see how it hurts some relationships, and for that reason alone, I don't approve. I feel the same about singles bars, drug use and heavy drinking. If something else is becoming more important than your marriage or family, you need to reassess your priorities.

**getting off my soap box now**

I agree 110% with everything said here. I know all men are different, but if my hubby ever had the desire to go to a strip club instead of be home with me, there would be some major problems in my house and we would be doing some serious counseling.

[RLC12345678]

Originally Posted by Taurus Babe

Oh AND, is it worth getting into an argument about it? Or is it better to just leave the subject alone?

I think that if you don't appreciate him going to strip clubs, then you need to let him know!!!!!!! I told my hubby the first day we met that i don't approve of strip clubs. One weekend he went to New Orleans with some guys for a Bachelor Party. All of them went to the strip clubs but my hubby and one other guy. They told their friends that their wives would *kill* them if they went. He blamed it on me. That's fine. I don't care what excuse he gives them, as long as he doesn't go.

[Lissa]

I agree, attached guys going to strip clubs is wrong to the nth degree!!! I don't agree with single guys going either, and I don't like the idea of strip clubs altogether and I wouldn't mind if they just disappeared.

Bragging moment: my guy has never been to a strip club and knowing him I couldn't see him ever going to one. Goodness, the other night we went and saw the movie 300 and in it there's a bit of nudity. In one scene a girl is flailing about wearing what might as well have been strategically placed CGI smoke cause you could see everything. He sighed like he was annoyed by it and turned his head and stared into my eyes until the scene was over so he was focused on me and not the chick on the screen. And there was also a sex scene that was filmed to where all you saw was their rib cages up(luckily it was between a husband and wife but that doesn't mean they should have shown it) and he did the same thing, sighed real annoyed and focused on my eyes so he couldn't see it and so I would know he didn't want to watch it. I love him.

okay, so i'm going to throw an alternative thought to this discussion. and perhaps it's just because we've a more liberal view of things, but i've gone to strip clubs before with hubby, both when we're dating and after we were married. i've friends who have worked and are working at strip clubs currently either as a hostess or as a stripper. none of them are drug addicts nor do they suffer from poor self esteem or other stereotypical perception of strippers. for instance, a couple of my stripper friends are exhibitionists and enjoy the attention. stripping allows them to express themselves in a safe manner (there are a lot of rules for patrons and security at many stripclubs, and it's not a sexual free-for-all without consent) and get paid for it.

my personal opinion is that strip clubs are just forms of entertainment. it's the motive that makes it "wrong". and quite frankly, i've seen more "stripping" going on at some dance clubs than at higher end strip clubs, but it's the label of "strip club" that makes it "bad" in the eyes of some and "dance club" as being "fine".

i've gone to high end strip clubs where the performances are of similiar calibar as topless cabarets and burlesque shows in cities such as vegas. i think it's common for people (especially women) to gasp and say "no-no" to strip shows but be okay with shows like jubilee at bally's in vegas and discount the similiarities between the two.

on a personal note, my husband neither drinks nor does he smoke. he dislikes bars because he sees a majority of them as cesspools where people drink, get drunk, get stupid, and go on to doing stupid things with themselves and each other. but he doesn't tell me i can't go because he understands that is not my motive for going. he trusts that to me it's just a form of entertainment and i don't get stupid about it. likewise, i would trust that his motive for going to strip clubs with me, with friends, or by himself is not to disrespect me in any way nor will he do anything stupid.

i'm not saying it's all nice and wholesome at these clubs, but i'm am saying that it's unfair to lump everything and everyone of a particular industry into a single category. just my 2 cents.