The Average Cost Of A Wedding Today

[Amber_lv]

Oh i hear ya weddings are way to expensive i got married in 2004 and it cost over $18,000 and it wasn't really extravgent it was very beautiful but i almost died when my mom tols me what she had paid

[Janet]

My 26 year old neice is getting married in October. She is the daughter of my older closest brother. She doesn't want a big wedding, only immediate family, which leaves out aunts, uncles..etc. She wants a huge reception with a band, drinks, everything. AND she expects my brother to pay for it. He will too! She is so selfish and well just a bi**h and if she causes him to have another heart attack over the pressure of trying to keep her happy, I'll let her know about it and never forgive her.

She's living with the guy and since they can't afford to pay for it, she expects her mom and dad to. Well, since I'm not invited to the wedding, I'll save her dad a few bucks and stay away from the reception too. And a gift....not going to happen.

I know I sound horrible about this, but my brother can not afford it and my niece is so strong willed, selfish, spoiled and ungrateful, that when it's all over with, she won't even thank them. She told them once that she was never going to get a job, she didn't ask to be born, so it was their job to take care of her. ugh!!!!!

[Marilyn]

Originally Posted by Janet

My 26 year old neice is getting married in October. She is the daughter of my older closest brother. She doesn't want a big wedding, only immediate family, which leaves out aunts, uncles..etc. She wants a huge reception with a band, drinks, everything. AND she expects my brother to pay for it. He will too! She is so selfish and well just a bi**h and if she causes him to have another heart attack over the pressure of trying to keep her happy, I'll let her know about it and never forgive her.

She's living with the guy and since they can't afford to pay for it, she expects her mom and dad to. Well, since I'm not invited to the wedding, I'll save her dad a few bucks and stay away from the reception too. And a gift....not going to happen.

I know I sound horrible about this, but my brother can not afford it and my niece is so strong willed, selfish, spoiled and ungrateful, that when it's all over with, she won't even thank them. She told them once that she was never going to get a job, she didn't ask to be born, so it was their job to take care of her. ugh!!!!!

That's awful!!! From the sound of it, they should get a couple of close friends together and find a JP. That's what my parent's did. Of course, it was during the 1950's and they had very little money. It was my father's second marriage. They took pictures, and it was actually very nice and tasteful.

[Janet]

She could have a very nice wedding without putting her parents in financial straits. It just breaks my heart for her to treat my brother (her father) like that. She is getting married in a church, but she is sooooo VERY heavy that she doesn't want to get married in a gown, she's going to wear a pant suit. That's also why she doesn't want anyone but immediate family. So she'll spend all they have on a reception.

My brother told me that I may not want my son at the reception because of all the drinking....I can't figure out if that's his way of saying no kids...(Rick is 16) or leaving it up to me. If Rick isn't invited we definitely won't be going. We have always included his two daughters in everything. If Rick is allowed to attend, we may go for 30 - 60 minutes, but that will be it. Just so they can't say we didn't show up.

I guess I shouldn't let it bother me and I woudn't if it doesn't scare me about my brother having another heart attack due to the stress. He's already had two and survived, thank God.

[rivermom]

Originally Posted by Janet

She could have a very nice wedding without putting her parents in financial straits. It just breaks my heart for her to treat my brother (her father) like that. She is getting married in a church, but she is sooooo VERY heavy that she doesn't want to get married in a gown, she's going to wear a pant suit. That's also why she doesn't want anyone but immediate family. So she'll spend all they have on a reception.

My brother told me that I may not want my son at the reception because of all the drinking....I can't figure out if that's his way of saying no kids...(Rick is 16) or leaving it up to me. If Rick isn't invited we definitely won't be going. We have always included his two daughters in everything. If Rick is allowed to attend, we may go for 30 - 60 minutes, but that will be it. Just so they can't say we didn't show up.

I guess I shouldn't let it bother me and I woudn't if it doesn't scare me about my brother having another heart attack due to the stress. He's already had two and survived, thank God.

Does your Brother (her Dad) want to pay for it? Is he excited about planning all the arangements and being involved? If so, then possibly he wont be stressed out and you wont have to worry about his health, etc.

What about your Brother's wife - is she excited too? I think the women get more involved anyway's then the men do planning this sorta thing, I dunno.

Hopefully all the arrangements will go smoothly, you will go because it's your brother and you are there for him, everyone relaxed and enjoying themselves.

Weddings should be a celebration right? It's sad to see all the chaos that a wedding can bring.

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by Janet

My 26 year old neice is getting married in October. She is the daughter of my older closest brother. She doesn't want a big wedding, only immediate family, which leaves out aunts, uncles..etc. She wants a huge reception with a band, drinks, everything. AND she expects my brother to pay for it. He will too! She is so selfish and well just a bi**h and if she causes him to have another heart attack over the pressure of trying to keep her happy, I'll let her know about it and never forgive her.

She's living with the guy and since they can't afford to pay for it, she expects her mom and dad to. Well, since I'm not invited to the wedding, I'll save her dad a few bucks and stay away from the reception too. And a gift....not going to happen.

I know I sound horrible about this, but my brother can not afford it and my niece is so strong willed, selfish, spoiled and ungrateful, that when it's all over with, she won't even thank them. She told them once that she was never going to get a job, she didn't ask to be born, so it was their job to take care of her. ugh!!!!!

That's awful...and SO sad that she is treating your family that way. I'm sorry her negative attitude is hurting you so much. You don't sound horrible at all; she does.

[Janet]

My borther has two daughters. The older one is so sweet and caring. This younger one thinks eveyone owes her, because her mother gave in to everything. I've seen my brother at 58 years old, hop in his car and peel out (like a teenager) because he gets so upset and his wife always sides with their daughter.

Yes, he is excited for the wedding, but part of it is he won't have to keep supporting her, so he hopes. My brother and SIL still pay for this daughters car insurance and other things. She has a good paying job, but blows it. At 26 years old she still doesn't balance her check book. Uses the ATM and forgets to write it down and then goes to her mom who gives her money.

Yes you're right Sheryl, I'll go to the reception, but we won't be staying. I will take my son and once the drinks start taking over, we will leave, like I said, probably no more than an hour.

When I asked my SIL the other day how come Dusti wasn't paying for most of it since she lives with the guy, she told me that they can't afford anything. The guy she lives with isn't working....oh great...then why hurry and get married. Why not wait until they are financially stable. I mean, she already lives with him. I guess I'm just too old to understand. I know I probably made mistakes here and there with my son, but I used their parenting practices as what NOT TO DO, in raising my son. They think I'm too hard on him, but I know I'm not. He doesn't talk to me or my husband like we are dirt and we owe him, like my niece does her parents.

Oh and btw, it's not like this wedding is causing real problems...I just worry about my brother. He walked me down the aisle because Dad had passed by the time I got married. He's everything to me. I just don't like him being taken advantage of by his daughter or his wife. BUT, the good thing is, I do keep my opinions to myself and don't discuss it with them. They'll do what they want anyway, so it wouldn't do any good except cause hard feelings. I could never let something come between me and my brother. He has such a good heart.