What about porn?

03-17-2007, 07:18 AM

i dont have a problem with porn if its the what i call the glossy stuff but not amature porn as i see them as normal people like you and me and its to personal as they are people having sex cos they want to not cos they are paid to do it.
i see a man useing porn the same as a woman useing a sex toy and thinking about men, men dont use there minds like we do they have to have an image in front of them thats why they use porn.
we look at porn like a women would ie we see them as a real person, think whats there name, what are they like, but men dont they just see lady bits, they dont make a story up of who that person is, they prob wouldnt notice if they had 2 heads lol.
to a man a pic of a woman is just a pic of lady bits, no more personal than a woman useing her mind to think of a man while useing a sex toy in fact what a woman thinks of is prob more personal.
i think the only time it is a problem is if its hidden from the other partner, if its something one partner is not happy about and doesnt like the other looking at then they should stop looking at it out of respect for there partners feelings.

Chandra Amaya · 03-17-2007, 06:18 PM

Sasha does have a valid point. I talked with an ex about the same issue. I found porn in his filing cabinet & confronted him asking if he did not find me attractive. I took it personally. He explained that alot of guys who look at or watch porn are picturing their significant other wearing the outfits or doing the acts. This I somewhat understood & agreed it wasn't me. After getting my self confidence back, I actually found that he was better when we looked at alittle together before hand. My husband now & I do not engage in those activities. It maybe because we are still pretty much "newlyweds"(married for 3 yrs), but I'm not completely closed to it in the future. The big let down is hiding it. I respect Cindy's decision not to want to be invovled & so should her hubby. I'm glad you two are beginning to work through it though

Congrats & I wish you both many, many more years in your long, happy marriage

03-17-2007, 06:18 PM	#2
Chandra Amaya 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Tn Posts: 1,646	Sasha does have a valid point. I talked with an ex about the same issue. I found porn in his filing cabinet & confronted him asking if he did not find me attractive. I took it personally. He explained that alot of guys who look at or watch porn are picturing their significant other wearing the outfits or doing the acts. This I somewhat understood & agreed it wasn't me. After getting my self confidence back, I actually found that he was better when we looked at alittle together before hand. My husband now & I do not engage in those activities. It maybe because we are still pretty much "newlyweds"(married for 3 yrs), but I'm not completely closed to it in the future. The big let down is hiding it. I respect Cindy's decision not to want to be invovled & so should her hubby. I'm glad you two are beginning to work through it though Congrats & I wish you both many, many more years in your long, happy marriage __________________ Traci

03-17-2007, 07:18 AM	#1
sashajade Guest Posts: n/a	i dont have a problem with porn if its the what i call the glossy stuff but not amature porn as i see them as normal people like you and me and its to personal as they are people having sex cos they want to not cos they are paid to do it. i see a man useing porn the same as a woman useing a sex toy and thinking about men, men dont use there minds like we do they have to have an image in front of them thats why they use porn. we look at porn like a women would ie we see them as a real person, think whats there name, what are they like, but men dont they just see lady bits, they dont make a story up of who that person is, they prob wouldnt notice if they had 2 heads lol. to a man a pic of a woman is just a pic of lady bits, no more personal than a woman useing her mind to think of a man while useing a sex toy in fact what a woman thinks of is prob more personal. i think the only time it is a problem is if its hidden from the other partner, if its something one partner is not happy about and doesnt like the other looking at then they should stop looking at it out of respect for there partners feelings.

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