Wanted or Just Needed ?

[rivermom]

I am very blessed in my marriage I have to admit. I don't feel as if I am "just here". Everyday I never doubt that my husband loves me and "is in love with me". I don't feel he gets lazy and forgets to show it. He does all the time but it's usually me who does the pushing away.

I am in love with him too. Sure it's not that crazy heart beated feeling when we first met, but it's a mature love based on respect, admiration, and content with one another. I feel we both have a real partnership in our life together.

It took a long road to find this happiness and I believe there are sacrafices one has to make to achieve an honest happiness.

In no way am I saying my marriage or relationship is perfect, it's far from it. But I feel we are good for each other and I am grateful.

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by rivermom

I am very blessed in my marriage I have to admit. I don't feel as if I am "just here". Everyday I never doubt that my husband loves me and "is in love with me". I don't feel he gets lazy and forgets to show it. He does all the time but it's usually me who does the pushing away.

I am in love with him too. Sure it's not that crazy heart beated feeling when we first met, but it's a mature love based on respect, admiration, and content with one another. I feel we both have a real partnership in our life together.

It took a long road to find this happiness and I believe there are sacrafices one has to make to achieve an honest happiness.

In no way am I saying my marriage or relationship is perfect, it's far from it. But I feel we are good for each other and I am grateful.

That's so sweet, Sheryl! I'm so glad you have found such honest contentment. You don't see that very often in marriages today. (I sound old, don't I? LOL!)

I also feel that I have been blessed with an incredibly loving and caring husband. We really haven't had to work that hard to achieve this happiness, but I know it would be worth it even if it had been hard...and I've definitely seen my share of couples having a hard time.

I wish I could magically make every couple in the world have a happy and fulfilling marriage... I've considered becoming a marriage counselor, but I don't know if I'd be good at it or not.

Anyway, I'm just rambling now, but I wanted to tell you congrats on getting to such a happy place in your marriage!! I hope you only grow closer and closer together as the years go by!

[rivermom]

Originally Posted by AngieDoogles

That's so sweet, Sheryl! I'm so glad you have found such honest contentment. You don't see that very often in marriages today. (I sound old, don't I? LOL!)

I also feel that I have been blessed with an incredibly loving and caring husband. We really haven't had to work that hard to achieve this happiness, but I know it would be worth it even if it had been hard...and I've definitely seen my share of couples having a hard time.

I wish I could magically make every couple in the world have a happy and fulfilling marriage... I've considered becoming a marriage counselor, but I don't know if I'd be good at it or not.

Anyway, I'm just rambling now, but I wanted to tell you congrats on getting to such a happy place in your marriage!! I hope you only grow closer and closer together as the years go by!

Thanks Angie! If you have a desire in your life to do counseling then go for it! Don't let your inhibitions talk you out of it. Id hate to see you reach a point in your life saying "I wish I would have done this or that". You are young, find those dreams and fulfill them while you can.

Glad you are happy also. I can always tell by your posts that you are - it shows. That is nice! And I agree with you. It would be a better world to live in if every couple could find happiness in their marriage w/ one another.

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by rivermom

Thanks Angie! If you have a desire in your life to do counseling then go for it! Don't let your inhibitions talk you out of it. Id hate to see you reach a point in your life saying "I wish I would have done this or that". You are young, find those dreams and fulfill them while you can.

Glad you are happy also. I can always tell by your posts that you are - it shows. That is nice! And I agree with you. It would be a better world to live in if every couple could find happiness in their marriage w/ one another.

I'm just SO scared to try. What if I gave bad "guidance" (they say to never use the word advice ) and it made things worse!? I'd HATE that since marriage, especially young and struggling marriages, mean so much to me. I want more than anything to see people have loving and happy relationships. I think I'd rather live with the regret of not trying than to try and then see negative results. But thanks so much for the encouragement. It's just too much of a risk to take (for my sake as well as other's).

Originally Posted by rivermom

I am very blessed in my marriage I have to admit. I don't feel as if I am "just here". Everyday I never doubt that my husband loves me and "is in love with me". I don't feel he gets lazy and forgets to show it. He does all the time but it's usually me who does the pushing away.

I am in love with him too. Sure it's not that crazy heart beated feeling when we first met, but it's a mature love based on respect, admiration, and content with one another. I feel we both have a real partnership in our life together.

It took a long road to find this happiness and I believe there are sacrafices one has to make to achieve an honest happiness.

In no way am I saying my marriage or relationship is perfect, it's far from it. But I feel we are good for each other and I am grateful.

i dont think anyone could say there relationship is perfect but i like you am very happy with what i have, i think its about growing together, being best friends, being honest and i also think if you can laugh together your stay together