I'm Ticked

[rivermom]

Originally Posted by Ponyup

See I thought we had talked it out, I told him that it wasn't anything to do with her, it was the fact he doesn't do it with me that hurt me more. He claims he was drunk & had I been sitting there he would of put his arm around me. I don't wanna not trust him, but it feels weird for him to talk to someone besides me. He doesn't talk to anyone & that's what I like about him, I know that sounds selfish, but it's true. I know he likes her because they end up talking while my friend & i reminisk about people they don't know. However, i know that when she gets drunk she tells him that she's unhappy with my friend, or they don't have sex very often things like that. I'm just afraid of them getting close because that's when cheating starts. I honestly believe that he would never cheat on me, but I also know i would just die if he ever did. Cheating isn't something I can forgive, but I couldn't lose him either because he's my everything.

OMG! First off for this lady to open up to your hubby about her sex life is totally uncalled for and not appropriate whatsoever! No male and female should EVER discuss personal information about the sex life within their own marriage to another male or female. What happens in the marriage bedroom is to stay in the marriage bedroom unless all couples involved kinda just chat/joke about it. But in this ladies situation to be opening up to your hubby just aint cool at all.

Adding booze to the situation just makes it all the worst. Don't even get me started on this subject. WOW

I've been down that cheating road before, plus I've been cheated on. I've seen this sorta chat amongst "just friends" take place and well....it always leads to stuff that isn't moral.

I am older and wiser now and can clearly see the writing on the wall in this situation. It makes me shake my head back and forth.

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by rivermom

OMG! First off for this lady to open up to your hubby about her sex life is totally uncalled for and not appropriate whatsoever! No male and female should EVER discuss personal information about the sex life within their own marriage to another male or female. What happens in the marriage bedroom is to stay in the marriage bedroom unless all couples involved kinda just chat/joke about it. But in this ladies situation to be opening up to your hubby just aint cool at all.

Adding booze to the situation just makes it all the worst. Don't even get me started on this subject. WOW

I've been down that cheating road before, plus I've been cheated on. I've seen this sorta chat amongst "just friends" take place and well....it always leads to stuff that isn't moral.

I am older and wiser now and can clearly see the writing on the wall in this situation. It makes me shake my head back and forth.

I agree with Sheryl. Talking about your sex life with someone of the opposite sex (besides your spouse) may just be "testing the water" to get the person's reaction. That doesn't sound like a healthy friendship at all and on top of that, you are uncomfortable with the situation. That should be enough for him to reconsider having this woman as a part of his life, especially as a close friend.

I would definitely talk to him and tell him exactly how you feel. Again. And ask him how he would like to see this resolved. Tell him what you would like to see happen. Maybe you will come to an acceptable agreement. If you both agree about what is appropriate or inappropriate (texting, talking about sex life, hugs, etc), there is NO excuse for him to even slightly betray your trust. I think it's important that you both have clear guidelines as to what is expected in this situation and any other similar situations that might arise in the future.