Not Good News -- Surgery

[Janet]

Originally Posted by Tink

I'm sorry he's lashing out at you over this Janet. It is usually the ones we are closest to and know will forgive us that we do that to, but it stinks.

You've offered your support, so if you're now feeling like kicking his butt, that's ok too. (as long as you don't actually do it)

My hubby was told that he wouldn't be able to drive truck after his back injury either, and he's been back at it for a year with no problem. So drs really don't know it all. No one will know for sure if he can go back to work until he's had the surgery and PT following it. I'd tell him to use some of that "attitude" to get through what needs to be done and then see where he's at. Men just can't stand the idea of being laid up. ;(

I really don't think he'll be able to do the auto body repair after the surgery. He's on hard concrete all day, bending, stooping in all kinds of positions, carrying fenders, bumpers etc.. I just don't think he'll be able to do it without it causing problems.

He's really worried about it how he's gonna support the family, but there are other things out there besides body work. Rick is very selfish when it comes to money...he has to have his stash and knows that he probably won't be able to in another job. I don't know....I'm just tired of it all already, especially with his attitude. We've made it before, we'll make it again..so why worry, but he will until he drives everybody nuts.

Also, I haven't said anything since my last post about his drinking.....well the other day I checked his car and there were empty beer cans under the seat, the empty cardboard cases folded up under the other seat, a white bucket in the very back with empty beer cans in it and a small cooler with 6 unopened beers in it. So that is telling me he lied again about his drinking and is obviously driving while doing it.

It really hard to care for an obvious alcoholic and a liar. Two things I just won't stand for. My sister was married to an alcoholic and I won't do it!!!! It will either stop or he's gone....I'll wait till after his surgery, because I won't be bringing him something to drink..and see how he does, if it starts up again...I'm through!