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03-31-2007, 08:06 AM
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You've had too many instances with others telling you that he's running around on you and they've been from different people. Listen to what they're telling you and what you've already figured out. Is this the kind of life that you want if you should marry him? All the secrets? Always wondering if he's telling you the truth? It doesn't sound like he's been honest with you or you wouldn't have questions about his behavior. My suggestion is like everyone else"s---RUN AND DON'T LOOK BACK! It sounds like a really bad idea to marry this guy!
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03-31-2007, 10:56 AM
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Oh you got it to work! That's awesome!
As for your boyfriend, I definitely agree with the others. You DO NOT want to end up married to a man like that. If the lying and cheating is this bad already, imagine how it would feel to be married to him. You deserve SO much more, girl! And the the perfect guy for you is out there waiting for you to find him. Keep searching and don't waste any more time on this guy. Just my opinion...
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03-31-2007, 12:00 PM
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Yeah, you're probably right. But he keeps saying.. whenever I bring the past up.. that I'm looking for something to be mad at him with. He's like, "Ashley would I give a key to someone I didn't love? I gave you a key to my house, I wouldn't do that to someone I didn't care about." etc etc. I don't know what to do. I do love him, but I hate the fact that its three years I've wasted. I absolutely, hate that the most.
I just don't know how to break it off with him. He threatens to come to my house, and make a huge scene if I decide to break up with him. I bought 384 tickets to my christina aguilera concert and we had to leave early because he argued with me in the concert arena in front of everyone... all because I was texting my sister (who was also there) So I told him (to save any more humiliation) that we need to just go. Then he made a complete a$$ out of himself outside and yelled at me as went to go look for my car... I guess, as I write this, I know that our relationship needs to end. What I don't know how to do is figure out how to completely erase him from my life? |
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03-31-2007, 12:12 PM
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Its easy for us to say, but you are the one thathas to deal with it, and im so sorry.
He sounds like he is insecure, by threatening you that if you break up with him, he will do so and so. if he truely loves you, he will see you are unhappy, and out of love he will want to work on himself, or let you go. You wont ever be able to erase him out of your mind, you have both shared 3 years of life together. He needs to grow up, and take responsebility for hes actions! Making a fool of himself at the concert is just ridiculous, simply because you were texting your sister? PUHULEEEZZzz - IMO its the guilt in him talking.
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03-31-2007, 12:30 PM
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Ashley, I hate to say this but he sounds SO controlling and usually guys who are controlling when you are dating, only get worse when they are married...often to the point of physical abuse. I'd hate for you to get into a situation like that. You are in a very critical point in your life right now and I hope you are incredibly careful about the decisions you make. It would be better to leave, feeling that you've wasted three years of your life, than to stay and waste the rest of your life.
Good luck Ashley. Please keep us updated.
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03-31-2007, 01:22 PM
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I agree with what everyone else has said hon. You are lucky to get out before you married this guy. To try to ease the pain, try hanging out with some fun freinds. You need to remember that you are a fun person & don't need him to feel loved or cared for. I hope you feel better soon & we are always here.
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03-31-2007, 01:23 PM
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Are you absolute sure you "love" him or is he just someone you're use to? Sometimes it can be really confusing those two. I would walk away and never look back. There is so much more out there, no one should let someone treat them that way......EVER!!
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03-31-2007, 10:36 PM
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Ashley, you need to trust your instincts. I have been in this situation twice and tried to lie to myself that it was just me-I was just being insecure they wouldn't cheat. I was right all along I just didn't want to face it. It takes a while to get over it but in time the peace of mind is worth more than having them and wondering what's going
on every time their phone rings or they go out the door. You deserve better than this.
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