How would you react?

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Thanks Janet, that's MY thinking on it too. She has sacrificed much of her life doing the "right thing" and for the most part hasn't even complained about it. She is really a wonderful lady and I think it's about time she has some happiness for herself. She could still have the same friendship with her hubby that she's had for the past 30+ yrs if it will help him, but wouldn't have to be lonely and depressed over the situation she's in.

She's taken her hubby home on weekends, holidays, etc as much as she can. He is incontinent, is a large man who she can't handle getting in and out of the wheelchair alone anymore, and I truly feel she's done far more than most would have already. I personally would be thrilled for her to finally be free to have some happiness for herself whether she remarried or not.

Sadly, people call her a saint for having been the loyal wife she has been. Yet people can be so cruel, and she's afraid she might earn the reputation of the complete opposite when news gets out.