new friend... or not

Lindsey · 04-06-2007, 09:40 AM

Well you guys know about the new friend I found. Yesterday we went for lunch together, went shopping, and then had a little martini party here at my house. During our conversations, I found out that she's very... well I guess almost addicted to sex. My brother and his friend were here for a little while and she kept telling me "Oh your brother is flirting with me! He's cute!" but he's my brother, and that's kind of off limits, right?
Well she had his number because I left my cell phone at home so I had to use hers to call him. He called back and asked for me and she said "What do you want to talk to her for? You can just talk to me" So she got him to come to the bar we were at, and pick us up so we could go to another bar with them. They were holding hands in the car. They left me alone in the next bar to go dancing all night. She came home with us and I felt so awkward. She was on the couch and my brother just went and sat on the floor beside her until I went to bed. They made me bring my dog into my room and close the door so they wouldn't be bothered, so I did. Then I realized I forgot to bring in a pee pad so I went back out to do that and all I heard when i got out was them squirming and my friend saying "see, i told you!" When I got up this morning, I guess they had both moved downstairs so I wouldn't hear them. She's still here, and acting like nothing's wrong. I'm so angry.

Chandra Amaya · 04-06-2007, 09:43 AM

I don't blame you at all Lindsey. It sounds like she maybe one of the "preditors" who pretend to be "just like you" to get close & use you for thier own wishes. I would be very weary of this girl.*hugs*

Janet · 04-06-2007, 09:51 AM

She sure doesn't sound like someone I would want to be friends with. I always worried when I was younger that THEIR reputation would follow ME. I just don't understand how some young ladies can behave this way...especially in this day and age with all the diseases running rampant.

Lindsey · 04-06-2007, 09:56 AM

I know... yesterday she was like "so guess how many guys I've slept with? It's kind of a lot!" I was going to say 10, but I said 15 because she had already told me a lot of stories... then she was like "Are you serious? Now I feel bad! Actually, 27!" I think my jaw dropped. She's 23 years old. She was in a two year relationship and engaged, so there were 26 outside of that. She's even told me that she's slept with all her guy friends and it's no problem, they all still hang out like normal. I couldn't believe it.

Chandra Amaya · 04-06-2007, 10:02 AM

yeah I would say she doesn't sound like someone you would enjoy being with for very long. You seem like a wonderful person & can find friends with more morals than this girl & I know this sounds mean but I think your brother should go for STD testing.

Lindsey · 04-06-2007, 10:34 AM

It means a lot for you to just say that I seem like a wonderful person, I'm actually in tears right now. Last night, the first bar we were at was just down the street from my ex's house where he was having a party with all his (and my old) friends. I still miss him. My friend was trying to flirt with some jerk at a pool table and he rode a bike so she told him she did too, and introduced me and told him about my bike. He said he drove a yamaha so I was like "oh just like my ex" and he said "yeah he's a smart man. That's why he's your ex." I was so angry I actually felt like i was going to cry right there, and especially after the friend just giggled and flirted with him some more. At the second bar after I got ditched, I actually did go into the little room with a phone in it, closed the door, and cried there. I hate crying in public and I'm usually a stronger person than that but it feels like now I just can't hold anything in anymore.

Chandra Amaya · 04-06-2007, 10:38 AM

I understand what you mean about normally being strong & not being able to hold it in. I am normally one to hide my feelings as well. I try to never cry infront of my kids esp. but there have been a few times over the past 5 yrs that I just couldn't take it. We all have the time in life when we feel like we can't take it anymore & it doesn't make you weaker to cry. It just helps get it out so you can continue pushing on.

AngieDoogles · 04-06-2007, 11:01 AM

Lindsey, I'm so sorry! She sounds like she is definitely not someone you want to be around. Having a bad friend is really a lot more trouble than it's worth. I hope you are able to find someone worthy of your friendship who can help you through this difficult time. We are here for you anytime you need to vent. *Hugs*

Lindsey · 04-06-2007, 11:16 AM

My best friend from back home is supposed to be making the 6 hour trip down here to see me either next weekend or the weekend after. When I found out last night I was so excited and I told the girl who was here, and she was like "It better not be in two weeks, you have to come to Regina with me!" She wants me to go to this other city with her, two hours away, to meet a bunch of sportbike guys from the forum we're on, because she thinks one of them is cute. After last night, there's no way I'm going.
She's not going to be an easy person to not talk to either... we haven't even known each other a week and she calls me every day and wants to go out for coffee every night. I'm also not the kind of person who can just get mad. I guess I'll just be making excuses for a long time...

Chandra Amaya · 04-06-2007, 11:19 AM

awww how sweet of her to come see you. I hope you have a wonderful time. Maybe she will tell the new girl to back off

AngieDoogles · 04-06-2007, 11:26 AM

That's great Lindsey! I hope you have a wonderful time with your best friend!!

Mandy · 04-06-2007, 12:44 PM

Get out of that friendship before there are too many strings attached, you know bad rumors travel faster then good ones. She doesnt sound like the friend you would want to be around.
You know how people think "birds of a feather" and seriously, you do not want to be classed down to her level.

Marilyn · 04-06-2007, 03:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Mandy

Get out of that friendship before there are too many strings attached, you know bad rumors travel faster then good ones. She doesnt sound like the friend you would want to be around.
You know how people think "birds of a feather" and seriously, you do not want to be classed down to her level.

I totally agree with Mandy here!! And everyone else with similiar opinions. You are a very sweet girl, and it's hard to find good friends, but you will. There are others with good values out there.

AngieDoogles · 04-06-2007, 04:14 PM

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Originally Posted by AngieDoogles

That's great Lindsey! I hope you have a wonderful time with your best friend!!

I just wanted to clarify that I meant your friend from your hometown and not the one who has been treating you so badly...

Have a great weekend!

Mandy · 04-07-2007, 12:24 AM

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Originally Posted by AngieDoogles

I just wanted to clarify that I meant your friend from your hometown and not the one who has been treating you so badly...

Have a great weekend!

We know it was meant the right way

04-06-2007, 09:40 AM	#1
Lindsey Donating 4WT Talker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Saskatchewan Posts: 3,764	new friend... or not Well you guys know about the new friend I found. Yesterday we went for lunch together, went shopping, and then had a little martini party here at my house. During our conversations, I found out that she's very... well I guess almost addicted to sex. My brother and his friend were here for a little while and she kept telling me "Oh your brother is flirting with me! He's cute!" but he's my brother, and that's kind of off limits, right? Well she had his number because I left my cell phone at home so I had to use hers to call him. He called back and asked for me and she said "What do you want to talk to her for? You can just talk to me" So she got him to come to the bar we were at, and pick us up so we could go to another bar with them. They were holding hands in the car. They left me alone in the next bar to go dancing all night. She came home with us and I felt so awkward. She was on the couch and my brother just went and sat on the floor beside her until I went to bed. They made me bring my dog into my room and close the door so they wouldn't be bothered, so I did. Then I realized I forgot to bring in a pee pad so I went back out to do that and all I heard when i got out was them squirming and my friend saying "see, i told you!" When I got up this morning, I guess they had both moved downstairs so I wouldn't hear them. She's still here, and acting like nothing's wrong. I'm so angry. __________________ Lindsey "I don't mind living in a man's world as long as I can be a woman in it..." -Marilyn Monroe

04-06-2007, 09:43 AM	#2
Chandra Amaya 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Tn Posts: 1,646	I don't blame you at all Lindsey. It sounds like she maybe one of the "preditors" who pretend to be "just like you" to get close & use you for thier own wishes. I would be very weary of this girl.hugs __________________ Traci

04-06-2007, 09:51 AM	#3
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,625	She sure doesn't sound like someone I would want to be friends with. I always worried when I was younger that THEIR reputation would follow ME. I just don't understand how some young ladies can behave this way...especially in this day and age with all the diseases running rampant. __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

04-06-2007, 09:56 AM	#4
Lindsey Donating 4WT Talker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Saskatchewan Posts: 3,764	I know... yesterday she was like "so guess how many guys I've slept with? It's kind of a lot!" I was going to say 10, but I said 15 because she had already told me a lot of stories... then she was like "Are you serious? Now I feel bad! Actually, 27!" I think my jaw dropped. She's 23 years old. She was in a two year relationship and engaged, so there were 26 outside of that. She's even told me that she's slept with all her guy friends and it's no problem, they all still hang out like normal. I couldn't believe it. __________________ Lindsey "I don't mind living in a man's world as long as I can be a woman in it..." -Marilyn Monroe

04-06-2007, 10:02 AM	#5
Chandra Amaya 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Tn Posts: 1,646	yeah I would say she doesn't sound like someone you would enjoy being with for very long. You seem like a wonderful person & can find friends with more morals than this girl & I know this sounds mean but I think your brother should go for STD testing. __________________ Traci

04-06-2007, 10:34 AM	#6
Lindsey Donating 4WT Talker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Saskatchewan Posts: 3,764	It means a lot for you to just say that I seem like a wonderful person, I'm actually in tears right now. Last night, the first bar we were at was just down the street from my ex's house where he was having a party with all his (and my old) friends. I still miss him. My friend was trying to flirt with some jerk at a pool table and he rode a bike so she told him she did too, and introduced me and told him about my bike. He said he drove a yamaha so I was like "oh just like my ex" and he said "yeah he's a smart man. That's why he's your ex." I was so angry I actually felt like i was going to cry right there, and especially after the friend just giggled and flirted with him some more. At the second bar after I got ditched, I actually did go into the little room with a phone in it, closed the door, and cried there. I hate crying in public and I'm usually a stronger person than that but it feels like now I just can't hold anything in anymore. __________________ Lindsey "I don't mind living in a man's world as long as I can be a woman in it..." -Marilyn Monroe

04-06-2007, 10:38 AM	#7
Chandra Amaya 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Tn Posts: 1,646	I understand what you mean about normally being strong & not being able to hold it in. I am normally one to hide my feelings as well. I try to never cry infront of my kids esp. but there have been a few times over the past 5 yrs that I just couldn't take it. We all have the time in life when we feel like we can't take it anymore & it doesn't make you weaker to cry. It just helps get it out so you can continue pushing on. __________________ Traci

04-06-2007, 11:01 AM	#8
AngieDoogles Donating 4WT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 6,509	Lindsey, I'm so sorry! She sounds like she is definitely not someone you want to be around. Having a bad friend is really a lot more trouble than it's worth. I hope you are able to find someone worthy of your friendship who can help you through this difficult time. We are here for you anytime you need to vent. Hugs __________________ "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." ~MT

04-06-2007, 11:16 AM	#9
Lindsey Donating 4WT Talker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Saskatchewan Posts: 3,764	My best friend from back home is supposed to be making the 6 hour trip down here to see me either next weekend or the weekend after. When I found out last night I was so excited and I told the girl who was here, and she was like "It better not be in two weeks, you have to come to Regina with me!" She wants me to go to this other city with her, two hours away, to meet a bunch of sportbike guys from the forum we're on, because she thinks one of them is cute. After last night, there's no way I'm going. She's not going to be an easy person to not talk to either... we haven't even known each other a week and she calls me every day and wants to go out for coffee every night. I'm also not the kind of person who can just get mad. I guess I'll just be making excuses for a long time... __________________ Lindsey "I don't mind living in a man's world as long as I can be a woman in it..." -Marilyn Monroe

04-06-2007, 11:19 AM	#10
Chandra Amaya 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Tn Posts: 1,646	awww how sweet of her to come see you. I hope you have a wonderful time. Maybe she will tell the new girl to back off __________________ Traci

04-06-2007, 11:26 AM	#11
AngieDoogles Donating 4WT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 6,509	That's great Lindsey! I hope you have a wonderful time with your best friend!! __________________ "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." ~MT

04-06-2007, 12:44 PM	#12
Mandy Donating 4WT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Who cares! Posts: 4,587	Get out of that friendship before there are too many strings attached, you know bad rumors travel faster then good ones. She doesnt sound like the friend you would want to be around. You know how people think "birds of a feather" and seriously, you do not want to be classed down to her level. __________________ Many people will walk in and out your life, but only true friends leave footprints!

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