Would you?

[Janet]

Originally Posted by Ponyup

The female is the wife of my friend from high school. We have started spending a lot of time with them as a couple. There is a movie out that i'm really not keen on seeing because i'm afraid it will frighten me & i'm not a big fan of scary movies.

I have a lot of male friends that i have been friends with for ages. However, when it got right down to it, i would not feel comfortable going to movie with them alone anymore. My husband would allow it no questions asked, but i just don't feel right about.

I guess he got a little peeved because when he asked I was like NO way Jose, & he doesn't like being told he can't do something. After we talked & I told him I wasn't comfortable with him or I doing it, he seemed to be more open.

I'm just thinking about the fire thing. It's not that I don't trust him, but I see things way in the future. Like they start doing more stuff together, she becomes his best friend instead of me, I'm left home all alone all the time (my husband really is the only person I do stuff with), & then we have a fight & something bad happens.

There you go!! You've answered your own question. Why start something that could possibly end up a disaster? Even though you trust him and trust her...you never really know what kind of 'chemistry' could happen...why take the chance.

[Ponyup]

Originally Posted by Janet

There you go!! You've answered your own question. Why start something that could possibly end up a disaster? Even though you trust him and trust her...you never really know what kind of 'chemistry' could happen...why take the chance.

I just wanted to make sure I wasn't crazy or being unreasonable.

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by Ponyup

I just wanted to make sure I wasn't crazy or being unreasonable.

I don't think that is unreasonable at all. There are different "rules" when you are married. If you feel uncomfortable with something he should have enough respect for you to not do it. I'm glad you were able to talk it through. That's the best possible thing you could do in that situation.

[judy]

If you're not comfortable, don't do it. Marriages follow the rules set only by the 2 people married. I wouldn't worry too much about being considered crazy. When you're stil married in 25 years, it won't make a bit of difference!

[RLC12345678]

Well, when the movie 300 came out, I REALLY wanted to go see it but my hubby refused to go see it. Our mutual male friend was all excited about seeing it so we went together. No harm done. In my opinion, you shouldn't deny your hubby the chance to go to a movie he really wants to go see just because you don't want to go see it and the only person he can find to go with is another female. You could make things really simple and just go with him yourself.

[Ponyup]

Originally Posted by RLC12345678

Well, when the movie 300 came out, I REALLY wanted to go see it but my hubby refused to go see it. Our mutual male friend was all excited about seeing it so we went together. No harm done. In my opinion, you shouldn't deny your hubby the chance to go to a movie he really wants to go see just because you don't want to go see it and the only person he can find to go with is another female. You could make things really simple and just go with him yourself.

Actually it was a similar situation. When he asked, I just replied that i might be scared & her husband was like I have a lot of work to do this weekend. So my hubby was like well then her & I will just go. Maybe it was the fact that he didn't run it by me first. I will go, especially now that's it's at the cheap theater. I was just nervous about seeing at $9 since I will probably spend most of the movie with my eyes closed.

I guess I can see your point & it'd probably be alright if it was only a once in a blue moon kinda thing & he asked me to go first.

It wouldn't bother me at all if it was a mutual friend. Now, if my husband was headed to the movies with a woman I barely knew or was not familiar with, I can't say I would be comfortable. Especially since I love to go the movies!

In your situation it wouldn't bother me, but you have to go with what makes you comfortable. There's no sense in putting a strain on your relationship over a movie. Just be honest with him (and yourself) why you were hesitant.

Originally Posted by Ponyup

Actually it was a similar situation. When he asked, I just replied that i might be scared & her husband was like I have a lot of work to do this weekend. So my hubby was like well then her & I will just go. Maybe it was the fact that he didn't run it by me first. I will go, especially now that's it's at the cheap theater. I was just nervous about seeing at $9 since I will probably spend most of the movie with my eyes closed.

I guess I can see your point & it'd probably be alright if it was only a once in a blue moon kinda thing & he asked me to go first.

Why don't you just go? If you are really afraid, doesn't matter if you kept your eyes closed most of the time rather than sitting at home thinking of what might happen etc etc. The $9 will be well spent.

[RLC12345678]

Originally Posted by Ponyup

Actually it was a similar situation. When he asked, I just replied that i might be scared & her husband was like I have a lot of work to do this weekend. So my hubby was like well then her & I will just go. Maybe it was the fact that he didn't run it by me first. I will go, especially now that's it's at the cheap theater. I was just nervous about seeing at $9 since I will probably spend most of the movie with my eyes closed.

I guess I can see your point & it'd probably be alright if it was only a once in a blue moon kinda thing & he asked me to go first.

That is so funny that you mentioned the cheap theater bc I could not justify going to the movies with my guy friend without my hubby but the fact that the movie was playing at the cheap theater was what pushed me over the edge. Go and have fun.....even if you keep your eyes closed most of the time, at least you and your hubby will get to spend some good quality time together...cuddling!