Would you?

[Ponyup]

Originally Posted by Janet

There you go!! You've answered your own question. Why start something that could possibly end up a disaster? Even though you trust him and trust her...you never really know what kind of 'chemistry' could happen...why take the chance.

I just wanted to make sure I wasn't crazy or being unreasonable.

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by Ponyup

I just wanted to make sure I wasn't crazy or being unreasonable.

I don't think that is unreasonable at all. There are different "rules" when you are married. If you feel uncomfortable with something he should have enough respect for you to not do it. I'm glad you were able to talk it through. That's the best possible thing you could do in that situation.

[judy]

If you're not comfortable, don't do it. Marriages follow the rules set only by the 2 people married. I wouldn't worry too much about being considered crazy. When you're stil married in 25 years, it won't make a bit of difference!

[RLC12345678]

Well, when the movie 300 came out, I REALLY wanted to go see it but my hubby refused to go see it. Our mutual male friend was all excited about seeing it so we went together. No harm done. In my opinion, you shouldn't deny your hubby the chance to go to a movie he really wants to go see just because you don't want to go see it and the only person he can find to go with is another female. You could make things really simple and just go with him yourself.

[Ponyup]

Originally Posted by RLC12345678

Well, when the movie 300 came out, I REALLY wanted to go see it but my hubby refused to go see it. Our mutual male friend was all excited about seeing it so we went together. No harm done. In my opinion, you shouldn't deny your hubby the chance to go to a movie he really wants to go see just because you don't want to go see it and the only person he can find to go with is another female. You could make things really simple and just go with him yourself.

Actually it was a similar situation. When he asked, I just replied that i might be scared & her husband was like I have a lot of work to do this weekend. So my hubby was like well then her & I will just go. Maybe it was the fact that he didn't run it by me first. I will go, especially now that's it's at the cheap theater. I was just nervous about seeing at $9 since I will probably spend most of the movie with my eyes closed.

I guess I can see your point & it'd probably be alright if it was only a once in a blue moon kinda thing & he asked me to go first.

It wouldn't bother me at all if it was a mutual friend. Now, if my husband was headed to the movies with a woman I barely knew or was not familiar with, I can't say I would be comfortable. Especially since I love to go the movies!

In your situation it wouldn't bother me, but you have to go with what makes you comfortable. There's no sense in putting a strain on your relationship over a movie. Just be honest with him (and yourself) why you were hesitant.

[Jlynn]

Originally Posted by tina

It wouldn't bother me at all if it was a mutual friend. Now, if my husband was headed to the movies with a woman I barely knew or was not familiar with, I can't say I would be comfortable. Especially since I love to go the movies!

In your situation it wouldn't bother me, but you have to go with what makes you comfortable. There's no sense in putting a strain on your relationship over a movie. Just be honest with him (and yourself) why you were hesitant.

I completely agree with this post. Of course, we each have to do what we're comfortable with

Originally Posted by Ponyup

Actually it was a similar situation. When he asked, I just replied that i might be scared & her husband was like I have a lot of work to do this weekend. So my hubby was like well then her & I will just go. Maybe it was the fact that he didn't run it by me first. I will go, especially now that's it's at the cheap theater. I was just nervous about seeing at $9 since I will probably spend most of the movie with my eyes closed.

I guess I can see your point & it'd probably be alright if it was only a once in a blue moon kinda thing & he asked me to go first.

Why don't you just go? If you are really afraid, doesn't matter if you kept your eyes closed most of the time rather than sitting at home thinking of what might happen etc etc. The $9 will be well spent.

[Marilyn]

Originally Posted by potter

Why don't you just go? If you are really afraid, doesn't matter if you kept your eyes closed most of the time rather than sitting at home thinking of what might happen etc etc. The $9 will be well spent.

I agree with this, and the three of you can go. The alternative is to convince him to wait untill it comes out on DVD.

It's not just what could happen, it's how it looks to other people. People seeing them together could think that you are having problems. Things can get so blown out of proportion by nosey people.

Sometimes there is nothing specifically wrong with something, but it may not be wise for various reasons.

[Ponyup]

Originally Posted by potter

Why don't you just go? If you are really afraid, doesn't matter if you kept your eyes closed most of the time rather than sitting at home thinking of what might happen etc etc. The $9 will be well spent.

I definitely will, it's at the cheap theater now so it's only $1.50 for the matinee, we can probably convince her husband to go, so it'll be nice. I think it just got blow out of perportion because of the situation that it was breeched in (we were all at a party & my hubby was a little loopy).

I agree it was more about how it would look than anything. In my head it just didn't seem right, like something that shouldn't happen. I guess i'm getting conservative in my old age. LOL.

[RLC12345678]

Originally Posted by Ponyup

Actually it was a similar situation. When he asked, I just replied that i might be scared & her husband was like I have a lot of work to do this weekend. So my hubby was like well then her & I will just go. Maybe it was the fact that he didn't run it by me first. I will go, especially now that's it's at the cheap theater. I was just nervous about seeing at $9 since I will probably spend most of the movie with my eyes closed.

I guess I can see your point & it'd probably be alright if it was only a once in a blue moon kinda thing & he asked me to go first.

That is so funny that you mentioned the cheap theater bc I could not justify going to the movies with my guy friend without my hubby but the fact that the movie was playing at the cheap theater was what pushed me over the edge. Go and have fun.....even if you keep your eyes closed most of the time, at least you and your hubby will get to spend some good quality time together...cuddling!

[Ponyup]

Originally Posted by RLC12345678

That is so funny that you mentioned the cheap theater bc I could not justify going to the movies with my guy friend without my hubby but the fact that the movie was playing at the cheap theater was what pushed me over the edge. Go and have fun.....even if you keep your eyes closed most of the time, at least you and your hubby will get to spend some good quality time together...cuddling!

cuddling AKA my head buried in his shoulder with my hands over my ears.