this is getting out of control!!!

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by Tink

Toodles, Greg and I have been together for nearly 25 yrs. In that time we've had a few issues that we simply could not agree on. It's bound to happen! What gets us through it is to take a different perpective on it.

Sometimes all we have to do is ask ourselves "Will this matter in a year?" If not, it's really not worth causing misery over right now either... We apologize, agree to disagree, and let it go. Lesson learned for next time.

Obviously if your guy is still stewing about this, you somehow hit a pretty raw nerve. Just Find out how and try not to do it again. We ALL have triggers that just really bother us more than they might someone else. Part of being married is to learn what those are and respect them. It doesn't always make sense to the other partner, but it doesn't have to if we keep it in mind and work around it in the future.

HUGS I hope things get better soon.

That was great advice Tink.

[rivermom]

Hope everything gets settled with the two of you and peace is restored. I really liked what Tink had to say about it all.

[Passionfruition]

I'm so sorry this is a hard time for you guys and he's being such a jerk. I think all marriages go thru stuff like this - and good for you for loving him ANYWAY - and he will come around and appreciate you all the more for keeping such a level head about it all.

And Tink - great avice!

[judy]

I think Tink and Ponyup gave some great ideas to think about. Hopefully, this will work itself out really soon.