my life just sucks

[Janet]

Lynne, you know I'm here for you anytime day or night. You are such a good friend and I hate that you have to carry this mostly alone. I think that daughters carry the most burden. I don't like using that word, because we love our parents, but sometimes it can be so overwhelming especially when other things are going on in our families.

I think the posts about trying to get you some help are great and hope you look into it.

Like I said last night, I'll give you a call over the weekend. If you need me between now and then....I'm here. Love ya girl!

[rivermom]

It clearly shows how much you love your Mom. You are a very special daughter to have been there for both your Dad and continuing to do so for your Mom.

It is important though to take care of yourself too. Id try to get some help even if it's just a day or so a week. It's too hard on yourself when you become too overwhelmed with it all.

I will be facing this myself. My parents recently moved to AR and just purchased a home. In time i will be providing much care for my parents. I have watched many other friends do the same for their own parents and have seen the exhaustion they have gone through. It can't be easy at times. It truly is a commitment of love.

[lynne b]

I left work at 9:30 am and it is a 5 min drive to the hospital we didnt leave till 11:00. I drove her past the apartment i am hopeing she will agree to move into (it will be closer to my work and to my daughter's house) so we can get to her on a daily basis which she really needs. she get's confused on her meds so I try to keep the pill boxes filled for her and also try to keep her syringes filled with insulin because she dosent see very well to fill them herself. The hospital said someone would call me about makeing arrangement's to have mom evaluated (sp) to have someone come in and help her but no phone call yet, which means i will probably have to take another day off work to be there when they do come (if they come).
why is it so hard to find help, you either have to be dead broke or richer than snot to get help if your in between your just sh$% out of luck until you have spent all of your money . mom is by far not a wealthy woman but she gets by and i have been trying to talk her into doing somethings with the money she does have so that the goverment doesent end up takeing it all but she is at the point where she dosent know how she will live if she dosent keep every penny she has , she went through the same thing with her parents , I've told my kids they dont have to worry about that because with our generation there wont be any money to do anything with lol.
thanks again for listening to me.

[Janet]

Lynne, I know it frustrating. It is so hard sometimes for our parents to see that all we want is what is best for them. They need our help and if they live closer it sure helps us too. I'm lucky that with my mother it doesn't interfere with my job.

It would help if we would realize that with the medical profession, our priority is not their priority. We are wanting answers now and if it's not an emergency, they don't seem to be in any hurry.

Here I was wanting a nice quiet weekend while the guys are camping with Scouts and I have to take my Mom to a Dr. tomorrow at 1:39 in the afternoon to interview her since Mom's Dr. is leaving town. Why on the darn weekend????? AND in the middle of the freak'n day???? I understand what you're going through completely.

You know you're in my thoughts and prayers.

[Marilyn]

Lynne, hang in there. It's hard for our parents to let go and trust us to watch out for their best interests. They don't want to lose control, they've been in charge for so long, and there is something about aging that seems to make people less trustful. I think they've been dissappointed so many times by different people and events that it becomes hard for them to trust even their own children.

We'll be thinking of you and praying for strength for you and your mother.

Janet, you hang in there too, girl. You are going through such a confusing and difficult time.

Hugs to both of you!!!