we are fighting!!!!

thanks ya'll i was feeling like a bad mom for a little while...she was getting long black hairs on her legs and she takes tennis twice a week plus p.e. at school and with the shorts and skirts it was really bothering her. she was so happy to shave her legs...she's laying on my bed rubbing her legs and grinning right now. it's just my mom makes me feel so bad sometimes then when she started saying in two years my dtr. will want to be on the pill and have sex it just chapped my ass!!! she says i don't have control of my children and i let them do whatever they want and in the long run they will not respect me just as i am not respecting her now. i have asked many friends and they all said let her shave and i even started a thread about it here. she was just really unhappy with her hairy legs and it upset her enough to talk to me about it. i want my dtr to be able to talk to me about things that bother her so i can help instead of being a hindrance you know?