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Old 05-27-2007, 04:44 AM   #6
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Hmmmmmmmmmm I'm trying to recall if my dh has ever made our bed. LOL
I imagine in nearly 22 yrs he might have once or twice, but I doubt it's any more than that. LOL

Janet, the sad thing is, you can let his imperfections drive you away from him or you can learn to laugh them off and choose to love him anyway. I went through a period of many years where I focussed on Gregs ability to annoy me. When I was feeling like that, EVERYTHING he did became worse in my eyes. Of course the less I appreciated him, the less he tried, too. (and who could blame him?) Eventually I came to a point where my prayers changed from "Lord, fix this idiot I'm bound to" to "Lord, help me to learn to love him again" and miracles began to happen.

Life's far too short to spend it miserable and barely tolerating the person you're committed to. Divorce is an option, but that breeds more unhappiness and hurts everyone around you in the process. What's worked for us, is to choose to make Greg my best friend. I tell him "since you're stuck with me for life, we'd better find a way to make this work" and his attitude has changed in response. We now laugh off a lot of things that just a couple years ago would have driven another wedge between us. In the process we're both happier and much closer to each other.

Your posts about your marriage make me sad because they remind me so much of where we were at and how hopeless it felt to be there. You're such a wonderful lady that I hate the thought of you living like that. I'm going to pray that you and your dh have the same blessing that me and mine have recieved. I don't have the answer for you, but know God does. Expect a miracle.

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