we are fighting!!!!

[Mandy]

Sorry you had an argument with your Mom, i think it's difficult for older people to understand this young generation. My parents are often in conflict with my son because they have a hard time understanding kids these days.

[Marilyn]

Just wanted to ditto what has been said here. I don't think any study would find any corrilation between what age a girl shaved her legs and when she had sex.

My daughters shaved their legs, pierced their ears, even cartlidge piercings in middle school, had purple & blue streaks in their hair durring the summer. We are very religiously conservative, and my girls always and still do dress modestly. You have to give them some harmless outlets that help them to fit in or feel a little radical. If you supress them too much then they do rebell and may want to fit in by having sex at an early age.

Surprizingly, when some of the old ladies at church ask, isn't that your daughter with the purple hair & I said yes, their response was, go girl. They knew my girls were nice and that a little purple dye is harmless.

I don't know if my mother would have approved or not, she passed away before my girls got to this age, but you have to do what YOU think is best. Only you know what your daughter needs.

[Janet]

I agree totally with everyone. You can respect your mothers feelings and ideas, but ultimately it is your responsiblity to do what you feel is best. It is so easy for others to judge when they don't actually live day to day in another family. We all have different ideas, but doesn't make either one wrong, just different. I know my mother is the same way in everything. I've learned through the years to pick and choose what I tell her. I think from now on it should be a lesson learned that when it comes to something personal like this.. we should just go ahead and do what we feel is best and let the grandparents grow old gracefully.......

[RLC12345678]

I would not worry about what your mother thinks. Things have changed so much since you were young and your mother was raising you. My grandmother (my mom's mom) always gives my mom a hard time about how she is raising us. My grandmother even called me a SLUT one time! But, we realize that she is old fashioned so we just ignore her. Don't worry about it! Just tell your mom that you respect her opinion, but things are different now. Don't make a big deal about it and your mom will soon drop it.

Originally Posted by RLC12345678

I would not worry about what your mother thinks. Things have changed so much since you were young and your mother was raising you. My grandmother (my mom's mom) always gives my mom a hard time about how she is raising us. My grandmother even called me a SLUT one time! But, we realize that she is old fashioned so we just ignore her. Don't worry about it! Just tell your mom that you respect her opinion, but things are different now. Don't make a big deal about it and your mom will soon drop it.

OMG!!! i would have old her to wash her mouth out with ivory soap and stuck my nose up in the air and said "real ladies don't speak like that!!!" i love to be a back-sasser!!! how old were you at the time? and what did your mom say to her when she said it??? poor baby.....

[Amber_lv]

Well she is your child and mothers have a way of being to nosey and controlling about this stuff you know giving a suggestion is fine but in the end it's your decision! Shaving her legs is not going to lead to sex i started shaving very early and it wasn't a sexual thing i was sick of the hair! Just kindly remind her who carried your daughter for 9 months and pushed her out she raised you now you must raise your own. Good luck and don't feel bad

theres nothing wrong with that i think most girls start shaving at that age

[Mandy]

Originally Posted by Amber_lv

Well she is your child and mothers have a way of being to nosey and controlling about this stuff you know giving a suggestion is fine but in the end it's your decision! Shaving her legs is not going to lead to sex i started shaving very early and it wasn't a sexual thing i was sick of the hair! Just kindly remind her who carried your daughter for 9 months and pushed her out she raised you now you must raise your own. Good luck and don't feel bad

I agree! Mothers tend to be controlling and very nosey!

I'm sure my Mother would love to be a fly on my walls LOL

[RLC12345678]

Originally Posted by ice queen

OMG!!! i would have old her to wash her mouth out with ivory soap and stuck my nose up in the air and said "real ladies don't speak like that!!!" i love to be a back-sasser!!! how old were you at the time? and what did your mom say to her when she said it??? poor baby.....

Oh, I was 18. My grandmother is just plain mean. My mom is SOOOO laid back and we are used to her being mean. We just laugh and shrug it off. Nothing she says surprises us anymore.