The ways men DON'T think.

Taurus Babe · 06-12-2007, 01:46 PM

I just got off of the phone with my bf who's at work right now. Do you know what he said to me? He said "what are you doing?"
me-immigration stuff
him-"oh...well why don't you go to the gym and work out"
me-ummmm, okaay
him-"I've started working out again" "I've gotta go!"

Okay, now I feel like my bf thinks I'm a whale. I already struggle with my appearance, and have been feeling extra fat this week, and now this. I don't think he meant anything by it cause men just don't think about what they say sometimes, but how else am I supposed to feel, beside gross and horrible!

Well, I'm going to the damn gym now.

Thanks for listening.

AngieDoogles · 06-12-2007, 05:11 PM

Aww, Hannah! I'm so sorry that conversation made you feel bad. He was probably just thinking about going to the gym himself because it might be something he enjoys, and wanted to give you the opportunity as well. The thought probably never crossed his mind that you might be hurt or offended by what he said. Sometimes guys just aren't thinking about the same things that we women think about.

I hope he does something super special in the very near future to make you feel like the wonderful person you are and to show you that he loves you.

Mandy · 06-12-2007, 11:06 PM

Awww Hannah, im sure he didnt mean it to sound the way it did. Men use the wrong words, they really not as sensitive as we are

Hope you feeling better today

DianaB · 06-13-2007, 07:41 AM

Men don't communicate on the same level as we do. We're very emotional and are always trying to read things into what men say. He probably just wants you to enjoy going to the gym with him so you can share that time together.

Janet · 06-13-2007, 10:04 AM

Men usually don't think and then sometimes they know that's what we'll think..did that make sense?...LOL

I've been feeling like a whale lately and if anyone was to say something to me now it would probably be the last thing they did...pity party for me!!

Taurus Babe · 06-13-2007, 04:16 PM

Yeah, I'm hoping he didn't mean it like that. I just had to vent about it cause it hurt my feelings, and made me feel super crappy! He's usually the sweetest thing since ice cream and wouldn't intentionally hurt my feelings. I just don't get why men are so.......why they don't think sometimes. Last summer after my sister got home from college, but dad told her she had put on weight. He thought she looked beautiful, but when he blurted out, "You've gained weight haven't you", she got the wronge impression. OPPS! They are a different breed. Oh, ya know maybe this is a question for Mr. Man. I haven't seen him around recently!

Anyways, thanks for listening!

judy · 06-15-2007, 01:45 PM

We always translate things they say, which usually has absolutely nothing to do with what they meant. Men are very simple creatures - they're hot they're cold, hungry, horny, happy, or sleeping as far as I can see. They have a few more feelings, but
not like we do. (This is not man bashing - I love the way men are).

I'm sorry you feel like a whale though. Having just finished an entire dark chocolate bar, I can understand! It's just not a good feeling. I hope you resolve it soon - and me too.

AngieDoogles · 06-15-2007, 01:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by judy

Men are very simple creatures - they're hot they're cold, hungry, horny, happy, or sleeping as far as I can see.ut
not like we do.

I read this part to my husband and he said that he's glad you understand men. lol

judy · 06-15-2007, 06:38 PM

He's a sweetie! Besides those feelings, he also loves you.

06-12-2007, 01:46 PM	#1
Taurus Babe Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 668	The ways men DON'T think. I just got off of the phone with my bf who's at work right now. Do you know what he said to me? He said "what are you doing?" me-immigration stuff him-"oh...well why don't you go to the gym and work out" me-ummmm, okaay him-"I've started working out again" "I've gotta go!" Okay, now I feel like my bf thinks I'm a whale. I already struggle with my appearance, and have been feeling extra fat this week, and now this. I don't think he meant anything by it cause men just don't think about what they say sometimes, but how else am I supposed to feel, beside gross and horrible! Well, I'm going to the damn gym now. Thanks for listening. __________________ Taurus Babe aka Thorsmomma

06-12-2007, 05:11 PM	#2
AngieDoogles Donating 4WT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 6,509	Aww, Hannah! I'm so sorry that conversation made you feel bad. He was probably just thinking about going to the gym himself because it might be something he enjoys, and wanted to give you the opportunity as well. The thought probably never crossed his mind that you might be hurt or offended by what he said. Sometimes guys just aren't thinking about the same things that we women think about. I hope he does something super special in the very near future to make you feel like the wonderful person you are and to show you that he loves you. __________________ "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." ~MT

06-12-2007, 11:06 PM	#3
Mandy Donating 4WT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Who cares! Posts: 4,587	Awww Hannah, im sure he didnt mean it to sound the way it did. Men use the wrong words, they really not as sensitive as we are Hope you feeling better today __________________ Many people will walk in and out your life, but only true friends leave footprints!

06-13-2007, 07:41 AM	#4
DianaB Moderator Donating 4WT 13K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Kansas Posts: 16,069	Men don't communicate on the same level as we do. We're very emotional and are always trying to read things into what men say. He probably just wants you to enjoy going to the gym with him so you can share that time together. __________________ ´¨) ¸.•´¸.•´¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Diana Baker ✞ You and I are friends....... Always remember that if you fall I will pick you up...... After I stop laughing!!!

06-13-2007, 10:04 AM	#5
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,624	Men usually don't think and then sometimes they know that's what we'll think..did that make sense?...LOL I've been feeling like a whale lately and if anyone was to say something to me now it would probably be the last thing they did...pity party for me!! __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

06-13-2007, 04:16 PM	#6
Taurus Babe Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 668	Yeah, I'm hoping he didn't mean it like that. I just had to vent about it cause it hurt my feelings, and made me feel super crappy! He's usually the sweetest thing since ice cream and wouldn't intentionally hurt my feelings. I just don't get why men are so.......why they don't think sometimes. Last summer after my sister got home from college, but dad told her she had put on weight. He thought she looked beautiful, but when he blurted out, "You've gained weight haven't you", she got the wronge impression. OPPS! They are a different breed. Oh, ya know maybe this is a question for Mr. Man. I haven't seen him around recently! Anyways, thanks for listening! __________________ Taurus Babe aka Thorsmomma

06-15-2007, 01:45 PM	#7
judy Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Denver, NY Posts: 8,097	We always translate things they say, which usually has absolutely nothing to do with what they meant. Men are very simple creatures - they're hot they're cold, hungry, horny, happy, or sleeping as far as I can see. They have a few more feelings, but not like we do. (This is not man bashing - I love the way men are). I'm sorry you feel like a whale though. Having just finished an entire dark chocolate bar, I can understand! It's just not a good feeling. I hope you resolve it soon - and me too. __________________ *Judy*

06-15-2007, 06:38 PM	#9
judy Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Denver, NY Posts: 8,097	He's a sweetie! Besides those feelings, he also loves you. __________________ *Judy*

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