I need advice

06-28-2007, 02:08 PM

i guess nobody has any advise thanks for reading and not replying!

DianaB · 06-28-2007, 03:50 PM

It's a little hard to answer a serious problem like yours. If you would like to introduce yourself and tell us a little bit about yourself, then we feel like we get to know you rather than to just jump into a huge problem like your having. We're a very friendly and helpful group if you want to stay and be a part of the group. It's kinda' like walking up to a stranger and telling them your problems without getting to know them first.

Marilyn · 06-28-2007, 05:48 PM

Ataloss, first, it's nice to meet you, and hope you find this to be worthwhile site. There are lots of fine ladies here. We weren't ignoring you. At least some of us who are active here were at work when you posted and just got on here and saw your post.

To respond to your post, I'd have to be honest and say that based on what we know from what you have relayed to us. I'd be very concerned as you are. The situation does not look good. You need to decide if you really love him and if this is something that you think will pass, and you are willing to live through this, or do you want to confront her and possibly learn that what you already are pretty sure is happening is true. Confronted, she may tell you what is really going on. There is a slight chance that it is innocent, but from what you've told us, it does not look innocent.

You are probably a much stronger person than you realize. You can make it through whatever you need to. We are here if you need to vent or need encouragement.

judy · 06-29-2007, 06:12 AM

That's a rough one! Can you sit down and calmly and quietly talk with him? If you don't want them together, then as your husband, he does need to respect that
because it's hurting you and causing you to not trust him.

You may have to make up your own mind what you want to do if he continues, not as an ultimatum, but as a reality.

Personally, I wouldn't talk to her - she's not your spouse.

Life's too short to suffer, honey, especially over a possibly bad relationship.

Janet · 06-29-2007, 12:57 PM

Hi and welcome to our site. Hope you decide to stay with us.

I'm sorry, but I have to disagree with Judy...(sorry Judy), but she would probably tell you the truth sooner than your husband. He may not be sure he wants his marriage to end and if something is going on, you can be she does and will tell you if you confront her.

As far as your husband, you need to talk with him too, about trust and how a relationship can not survive without it. If he wants out of the marriage, then sorry, lucky you! No one should have to stay with a two-timing creep and you're better off without him.

judy · 06-29-2007, 01:44 PM

Janet's point of view has a lot of validity to it. He may not tell the truth! She will.

Gina · 06-29-2007, 02:40 PM

Hi and welcome!

The ladies have given you some good solid advice. All I can add to as Diana mentioned is first how long are you married? It can be an innocent friendship, but by doing what he has done brings doubt. If you confront him he will deny it, by asking her you may get an answer. Are you ready to face the reality of this? Once you open a can of worms it may get nasty. Good luck and keep us posted..

Lissa · 07-03-2007, 02:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ataloss

i guess nobody has any advise thanks for reading and not replying!

Only gave us 2 hrs to reply? This isn't a 24/7 staffed forum.

judy · 07-03-2007, 06:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lissa

Only gave us 2 hrs to reply? This isn't a 24/7 staffed forum.

06-28-2007, 03:50 PM	#2
DianaB Moderator Donating 4WT 13K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Kansas Posts: 16,069	It's a little hard to answer a serious problem like yours. If you would like to introduce yourself and tell us a little bit about yourself, then we feel like we get to know you rather than to just jump into a huge problem like your having. We're a very friendly and helpful group if you want to stay and be a part of the group. It's kinda' like walking up to a stranger and telling them your problems without getting to know them first. __________________ ´¨) ¸.•´¸.•´¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Diana Baker ✞ You and I are friends....... Always remember that if you fall I will pick you up...... After I stop laughing!!!

06-28-2007, 05:48 PM	#3
Marilyn Donating 4WT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: South Texas Posts: 4,907	Ataloss, first, it's nice to meet you, and hope you find this to be worthwhile site. There are lots of fine ladies here. We weren't ignoring you. At least some of us who are active here were at work when you posted and just got on here and saw your post. To respond to your post, I'd have to be honest and say that based on what we know from what you have relayed to us. I'd be very concerned as you are. The situation does not look good. You need to decide if you really love him and if this is something that you think will pass, and you are willing to live through this, or do you want to confront her and possibly learn that what you already are pretty sure is happening is true. Confronted, she may tell you what is really going on. There is a slight chance that it is innocent, but from what you've told us, it does not look innocent. You are probably a much stronger person than you realize. You can make it through whatever you need to. We are here if you need to vent or need encouragement. __________________ Marilyn If anyone would like a free Bible Study CD or book entitled "Searching for Truth", PM me with your mailing address and I'll send you one. "And you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free." John 8:32

06-29-2007, 06:12 AM	#4
judy Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Denver, NY Posts: 8,097	That's a rough one! Can you sit down and calmly and quietly talk with him? If you don't want them together, then as your husband, he does need to respect that because it's hurting you and causing you to not trust him. You may have to make up your own mind what you want to do if he continues, not as an ultimatum, but as a reality. Personally, I wouldn't talk to her - she's not your spouse. Life's too short to suffer, honey, especially over a possibly bad relationship. __________________ *Judy*

06-29-2007, 12:57 PM	#5
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,625	Hi and welcome to our site. Hope you decide to stay with us. I'm sorry, but I have to disagree with Judy...(sorry Judy), but she would probably tell you the truth sooner than your husband. He may not be sure he wants his marriage to end and if something is going on, you can be she does and will tell you if you confront her. As far as your husband, you need to talk with him too, about trust and how a relationship can not survive without it. If he wants out of the marriage, then sorry, lucky you! No one should have to stay with a two-timing creep and you're better off without him. __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

06-29-2007, 01:44 PM	#6
judy Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Denver, NY Posts: 8,097	Janet's point of view has a lot of validity to it. He may not tell the truth! She will. __________________ *Judy*

06-28-2007, 02:08 PM	#1
ataloss Guest Posts: n/a	i guess nobody has any advise thanks for reading and not replying!

06-29-2007, 02:40 PM	#7
Gina Donating 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 6,025	Hi and welcome! The ladies have given you some good solid advice. All I can add to as Diana mentioned is first how long are you married? It can be an innocent friendship, but by doing what he has done brings doubt. If you confront him he will deny it, by asking her you may get an answer. Are you ready to face the reality of this? Once you open a can of worms it may get nasty. Good luck and keep us posted..

	Contact Us - 4WomenTalk.com - Archive - Top
		Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.7 Copyright ©2000 - 2025, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.