How do I tell him??

[Gina]

Your not a bad person at all for wanting your husband to be back in shape, and that you are not attracted to him like you once were. If memory serves me right you had some issues awhile back with the tattoos and so on. For one, my husband and myself are both in shape , don't get me wrong I gained on and off through the years since I have been married , but always manage to get it off. My husband has not really gained any weight he walks a lot and his takes after his dad they eat all they want and not gain weight.

The point I am trying to relay to you is that yes becoming heavy can turn off someone sexually, but put yourself in his place. If you were the one gaining the weight and he didn't want to be intimate with you how would you feel?. It is hard to lose weight, maybe you should motivate him, like some suggested. Walk with him after dinner, cook differently change his eating habits, he is not a child but men usually need to be led by the hand. As I mentioned in the begining I think there are other issues here and you are not being honest with yourself. I can be wrong and I hope that I am, reading your past posts I think there is more than you are admitting... Regardless I think you should talk to him and express your feelings. Good luck