what would you do ladies?

[hle_625]

I know how you feel to a certain extent. Me and Adam work the same hours and have off the same days so we see each other alot but, his mom just moved down the road from us and we are at her house more then we are at our house. Its so frustrating to me bc I want to spend some time with him and do things. We dont have kids yet so that isnt a problem, but everytime I turn around hes wanting to go to his moms to visit! Drives me insane!

[magnolia]

I'm sorry your wonderfully made plans didn't work out All I have to say is I'm glad my MIL lives over 3 hours away! She is exactly like your MIL - if we lived closer, I have no doubt in my mind that she would be calling on a regular basis needing hubby to go do something for her irregardless of whatever plans he may have otherwise!

[Janet]

Wait until you're married longer and you'll enjoy the time alone more. Seriously, my son and husband belong to Boy Scouts and I really look forward to the weekends they are camping. Just me and the dogs. I can work like the dickens around the house or lie on my you know what and not feel guilty. Gives me time to read, sew, play with my babies. I felt the same way when we first married almost 33 years ago, but sometimes the time apart is just what you need. Take advantage of it.

[Marilyn]

Janet is giving you some very good advice. Right now, it seems that his mom is demanding a lot, but if you're in this for the long haul, which I sincerely trust you are, just love and support him and try to understand. He probably wants to be with you, but he still feels the tug of his parents, and guilt if he does not help. He will love you even more if you have a trusting understanding attitude. At least he wasn't at the pool hall or someplace worse.

BTW, i'm speaking from 32 years of experience. Don't pretend to know it all, but have learned a lot & have a wonderful, awesome relationship that has grown over the years.

I agree with Janet and Marilyn, when you have been married longer you will like those kinda days by yourself lol hang in there, bite your tongue ( as long as it doesnt happen every day) We have made plans already and something came up that squashed the plans...there's always next weekend

[Janet]

Another way to look at it, is: How many men actually want to help their parents do yard work? I'd say a lot are too lazy or too selfish. He must feel secure in your relationship to hope you understand that after all....it's his parents. Sounds like a keeper to me!!!

[Jlynn]

Grr...can relate to the demanding, incapable mil thing, but somethings are better left unwritten (to be used against me at some unknown time in the future ) I'll just say, I wish mine were more than 15 minutes down the road!
Sometimes, you just gotta grin and bear it. Accept the relationship that was established years before you entered the pic.

[Sherry Lynn]

Originally Posted by Janet

Another way to look at it, is: How many men actually want to help their parents do yard work? I'd say a lot are too lazy or too selfish. He must feel secure in your relationship to hope you understand that after all....it's his parents. Sounds like a keeper to me!!!

My Mother used to always tell me to watch how a man treats his mother to see how he's going to treat you... I'm glad to say that my hubby is good to both of us.

My FIL was diagnosed with lung cancer last year so we've been trying to spend as much time with them as possible. God forbid there comes a time when he is no longer with us and MIL would come live with us. An hour away is good... down the hall... not so good!

That's when I'll be on here burnin' up the Vent Forum!