I'm Headed to Nebraska

[DianaB]

Sorry that I haven't been on for a few days. I had some school activities with Jaci and on Saturday we helped some friends get ready to move. Now we're getting ready to pack and head for Nebraska. My mother-in-law had surgery last week on her hernia (It was HUGE!). She'd put it off because her heart is in bad shape because of a heart attack years ago. We weren't even sure she could survive the surgery but lately she's had trouble with the hernia getting strangulated and something needed to be done. One of her daughters made her go to Nebraska to see doctors up there and they talked her into the surgery. Anyway, she made it through the surgery and is doing very well but all of the other kids have things to do and can't be there with her for a few days so my husband and I are headed up there. I don't know how long we'll be gone but I'll be back on here as soon as I get home.

Also, my father-in-law has prostrate cancer and chose not to do anything about it, found out that the cancer is in his bones, but the doctors think that they can help it with some kind of hormones. It's really hard to see both of them sick at the same time and I know that it's hard on my husband and his brothers and sisters. I would appreciate it if you would say a prayer for them and I'll see ya' on here when I get back.

[judy]

Dear Diana,

I'm sorry they're both sick. They're so lucky to have you. Have a safe trip.

We'll miss you!

Prayers are coming,

Judy

[Mandy]

Diana, i am sorry both your inlaws are sick - i will keep them in my prayers.

You, and your hubby are very sweet to go, and help out, and they are very fortunate to have you guys.

Have a safe trip, we will miss you!

[AngieDoogles]

Aww, Diana, I'm so sorry about your husband's parents. I'm sure they'll be so happy and relieved to have you there! They couldn't ask for a better daughter-in-law! I'll be thinking about you and praying for you and your family. Have a safe trip. We'll miss you!

[Janet]

Diana, I'm so sorry you all are going through this. It was the same with my in-laws too, both at the same time. It's so hard watching them deteriorate. Now we are watching my Mom do the same.

I'll keep you in my prayers....as always.

[Forgivenmom5]

Diana I will keep your in laws in my prayers (and your mom Janet)

[DianaB]

I'm finally back home!!!! My Mother-in-law is doing really good! I was really surprised when I saw how well she looked. She still has an awful time getting around, not just because of the surgery but because of arthritis. I think she'll get some of her mobility back if she tries. She went home with my husband's sister for a couple of weeks to recouperate then she'll be coming home to Kansas.

The family is upset with my Father-in-law because at this moment he is refusing any kind of treatment. That's his decision but as soon as he feels that he has a problem starting he panics until he finally gets to the hospital. It's been really stressful everyone but at least there are 5 kids to share the care and responsibility.

Thanks so much for all of your support but I wouldn't consider myself a "good daughter-in-law". My Mother-in-law and I have had some problems in the past and I've just learned to let her family take care of her. I've been in her family for 33 years and am still thought of as an outsider. Her side of the family is all like that and I've learned to keep my distance so I don't get hurt. I don't mean to sound harsh because I do care for my MIL just not in a real close way.

Thanks for all of your prayers too!!! You're a good group of friends!!!

[Mandy]

Welcome back Diana, it's good to see you again!

Well girl, you are the perfect DIL to me, specially if you not close to your MIL, not many other woman would do what you just did, if they were in your shoes.

[AngieDoogles]

Welcome back!!! I'm so glad to hear that your MIL is doing better.

I understand about in-laws...it really can get so complicated! I know I've only been married for three years, but Brendon has a sister who's really not a very nice person and that has made dealing with his family very difficult at times. (She got married and divorced within ONE MONTH, got pregnant the night she met her little boy's dad--not the guy she was married to, left Brendon stranded in TN once when she was supposed to drive him to PA, etc, etc, etc...) She likes to try to create drama and started yelling at me for no reason once at the dinner table in front of his whole family! Luckily, Bren AND his mother stood up for me because I was just shocked and so embarrassed I wouldn't have been able to say a word...

I just love most of his family (though they all have flaws, but that's just human nature), but this one sister I try to avoid at all costs.

Anyway, that being said, I think you ARE a good daughter-in-law for still putting so much time and effort not only into being nice to your MIL, but by going above and beyond the call of duty despite your differences. That's really amazing. If only we couldn't all be more like you and treat even those we disagree with or dislike with a bit more respect the world would be a better place.

[DianaB]

You're such a sweetie, Angie!!! Thank you so much for your kind words!!!

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by DianaB

You're such a sweetie, Angie!!! Thank you so much for your kind words!!!

Just telling the truth. You're awesome!

[Tink]

I'm glad you made it back safely Diana.
I'm sorry you're having to deal with this, and will pray for you.

My dad and FIL died suddenly and unexpectedly within weeks of each other in the fall of '91, so we have just our mothers left. Mine is in very good shape while Gregs has some blood pressure issues but does pretty well otherwise. So we've not had to deal with this yet, but I imagine our time is coming too. It's SO hard to watch parents going downhill but it's almost to be expected I guess.

I don't know which is worse... to lose them in a heartbeat, or watch them fade slowly. Neither is good.