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Getting serious for a moment, I would never want to be "trained" - so demeaning - and so I would never try to train my husband. I assume that, in truth, we all feel that way. The only thing I have found that works is to ask for what I need and if for some reason it doesn't happen, ask why and how we can make it work better. Mutual respect and communication were essential to my commitment to marriage in the first place. Sometimes during tough times, we fall down on the job of communicating well and we have to work harder at it for awhile but that's life.
Sometimes I think we come into marriage with expectations based on what we have known in our families, but our spouses have different expectations based on their life experiences. Sometimes we choose a spouse who is a follower because we want to lead and sometimes a leader who we want to follow. All of this gets in the way of building a long-term marriage that rests on the rock of respect, kindness and fellowship. We have to grow as individuals and as a couple and it takes work. We are constantly re-birthing ourselves and most of us know what giving birth was like - it isn't usually an easy walk in the park! lol |
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10-25-2007, 01:41 PM
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Usually the nagging works for me.
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10-25-2007, 04:17 PM
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So I was definitely kidding about "training" a spouse. I'm not *THAT* mean.
 It is, however, fun to joke around about men since we're all women here...
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You've heard the phrase..."can't teach an old dog new tricks."...LOLOL Yes he is pretty much untrainable. He wasn't raised the way I was..to take care of what you have and take pride in it ....pride in a job well done. Around home, he just does it any old way to get it done, so he can do something he likes to do...tinker. Man..here I go again.
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10-26-2007, 07:24 AM
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My son and I were talking about stereotypes yesterday so it seemed that clarifying the humor was important!
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10-26-2007, 12:06 PM
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 Well okay......I will give him credit for having excellent taste in a wife...
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10-26-2007, 05:34 PM
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And yes, he has terrific taste when it comes to choosing a wife! If nothing else, he's got that going for him, right? Also, from what you've said, he seems like a really great dad!
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10-26-2007, 05:35 PM
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There you go...you're 100% right Janet. His taste is impeccable.
I don't think you actually "train" a spouse, but I do think that we teach people how to love us and how to treat us. I think that's really what we mean when we say "train our husbands." One thing for sure, we can't change a person's basic nature. It's a waste of time and energy.
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